Spiritual Psychology:

The Twelve Primary Life Lessons

Information for Facilitators of Human Evolution

By Steve Rother

 

5 star must reading.   [The following is what I highlighted during my read of this excellent book -- I recommend it on my Top-ten List of Peace resources.  My purpose in providing them is to interest you, the reader, and hope that you will obtain and read the complete work.  To properly understand the highlights, you need to read the book to put them in the proper context.]

 

Introduction

·         It is only when begin to view the human experience as the evolutionary process of a soul that we can begin to understand all the strange forces at work in our lives.

·         The truth is, we learn through repetition.

·         ..understanding these patterns is not only critical to understanding ourselves, it also can create widespread changes in our life.

·         ..find ways of identifying this higher purpose.

·         ..we all have a connection to a higher part of ourselves, which provides us with divine inspiration.

·         ..we are actually spiritual beings experiencing life in human form.

·         …we are simply energy...

·         illusions of polarity.

·         ..life is simply a self-fulfilling prophecy.

·         ..we must first deal with what is happening on a spiritual level before we can effect change in our physical world.

·         Utilizing this information requires us to use greater intuition.

·         ..learn to trust and develop this ability.

 

 

Dedication

To the Catalysts in my life

·         ..the catalyst in every person’s life who is responsible for activating their life lesson.

·         These people have tremendous influence in our lives.

 

 

Chapter 1

The Twelve Paradigms

Suggestions for Healing in a New World

·         Healer = One who creates space for others to feel comfortable enough to heal themselves.

·         ..a facilitator or healer.

·         …the facilitator is doing what is necessary to give the client permission to heal themselves.

·         The 12 Paradigms for Facilitation are intended to help you to define higher truths for yourself, and keep your balance while creating space for others to heal themselves.

·         ..truth is always a work in progress.

·         ..choice without judgment.

·         None of us has all of the answers, but together, all of us have access to all of the answers.

·         …our perceived weaknesses will soon become our greatest strengths.

·         ..it is our responsibility to become a master of our own thoughts and to share this process with those with whom we work.

·         The easiest way to find the Light while not hurting one another is to hold hands.

·         Help those you facilitate to take responsibility for their own healing so that they may hold their true power.

·         Heal another and you may change their life.

·         Help another to heal themselves and you will change the universe.

 

 

Chapter 2

The Art of Mastery

Mastering Life through Mastering Life Lessons

·         All life lessons are always focused inward.

·         ..mastering a life lesson…

·         ..means is that the particular attribute we are working on will cease to be a problem in our lives.

·         ..the definition of mastery is the act of taking something negative and using it in a positive way.

·         Whenever people reach a level of mastery in any life lesson, the invariably move into some form of teaching.

·         ..students just start showing up.

·         The other thing that happens when any level of mastery is attained is that our relationship with the catalyst in our life also changes.

·         …looking for every opportunity to use a negative event in a positive manner will dramatically enhance our life.

 

 

Chapter 3

The Seven Stages of Life

The Evolutionary Path of a Spirit in the Human Experience

·         There are two important things to bear in mind here.  First, it simply is not possible to kill a soul.  Second, since this is the planet of free choice, all of our choices are honored.

·         Energy stamps are energetic imprints that are stamped upon us through experience.

·         Their purpose is to facilitate the primary life lesson we are working on.

·         ..we are omnipotent.

·         …we begin to see the effect our use of power – as well as overuse of it – can have on other people.

·         Adjusting our thoughts about children in this stage of life, and finding ways to help them become comfortable with expressing their own power, offers the greatest potential for human evolution in the years ahead.

·         …personal responsibility is the balance to personal power.

·         Finding ways of increasing personal responsibility is the most effective way of increasing our personal power.

·         What usually happens is that our catalyst will interact with us in a manner that is designed to activate our primary life lesson in either a positive or a negative.

·         …discover the joy and pleasure we can experience when we focus our efforts on making other people feel good about themselves.

·         ..what we feel becomes more important than what we think.

·         ..our focus turns towards self.

·         … “mid life crisis”

·         …critical to our development as a soul.

·         ..second wake up call.

·         Bump contracts can activate at this stage of life and can easily take form of a brief romantic relationship.

·         ..someone will come along, by contract, with such force that they will literally “bump” you out of your rut and directly onto your path.

·         ..embrace the aging process.

·         ..Dance in your Passion

 

 

Chapter 4

The Nature of Contracts

The Building Blocks of Life

·         …what we may be viewing as a disaster is, in fact, exactly the right and most appropriate thing that could be happening at that particular moment.

·         On the planet of free choice there is always predisposition but there is no predetermination.

·         .. the truth is every relationship must be rebuilt on a daily basis in order to last.

·         Bump Contracts

·         .. “bump” us into some kind of new awareness.

·         Karma, as we know it, has now been released to enable us to evolve more rapidly.

 

 

Chapter 5

Night Games

When the Lights go out

·         ..short naps during the day...

·         Placing our brains in an alpha state is one way we can enhance this connection.

·         When we awaken in the middle of the night, we’re not only in an enhanced awareness, we’re also in an enhanced state of creation.

·         ..use these powers consciously.

·         ..choosing our thoughts very carefully, for not only do they create our reality, but in the new energy they will do so with very little time bag.

·         Remember, you may not have control over what thoughts, enter your mind but you do have complete control over what stays there.

·         So choose your thoughts with great care.

·         ..we experience brief glimpses of Home in moments of passion, such as when we are making love.

·         …the more we raise our vibrational level, the more likely we are to experience an increase in our desire for sexual expression.

·         ..fear is only a lack of understanding.

·         In general there will be a rise in all areas of love relationships…

·         …working all night long.

·         …asks to remember only those dreams that will make her feel good.

 

 

Chapter 6

Clearing the Energy Tubes

Connecting to the Earth through Emotions

·         The human experience is geared toward seeking …

·         ..we refer to when we talk about being on a ‘path’

·         Basically, we are the creator searching for something to create.

·         …your highest purpose on this Earth is to take ethereal items and run them through that tube in order to bring them down to earth and give them substance?

·         ..love is actually energy...

·         …love is the base energy from which all other energies are formed.

·         This is an example of how our connection to our higher self is becoming stronger in the new energy.

·         If the energy stamp involved someone who played the role of catalyst in a primary life lesson we are working with, the changes in our relationship with that individual are often quite dramatic as we actually change our contract with that person.

·         ..we effectively free the other person from having to play the role the agreed to undertake to help us master our life lesson, which of course changed the entire nature of the relationship we had with them.

·         ..we have the opportunity to evolve from being unconscious manifestors to becoming wholly conscious creators.

·         ..our emotions are our connections between our higher and lower selves.

·         The key to true spiritual growth lies in doing whatever is necessary to facilitate the comfortable expansion of the energy tube.

·         Those who can wear their badges of mastered experience with pride usually find the next step much easier to negotiate.

 

Chapter 7

Energy Matrix

Energy Stamps

Two Ways we facilitate our Primary Life Lessons

·         Once we begin to see ourselves from the perspective of pure energy, it becomes easier to see where we are and what we can do to move forward.

·         Energy is dynamic potential.

·         …change.

·         Energy is...

·         The absence of everything reveals the base energy known as Universal Energy.

·         Since our true essence is energy, our energy field makes up the essence of who we are.

·         Every experience and everything that enters our field alters us in some way.

·         In fact, we are the sum total of all our experiences to date.

·         This is what we refer to as our personality.

·         Our personality, or energy field, is carried with us from one lifetime to the next.

·         ..we become what we think...

·         consciousness alters matter.

·         It is the basis of who we really are.

·         ..free choice.

·         This is the nature of the game and the basis of our true power.

·         There are twelve basic energy matrices.

·         The fact that an energy matrix can never be healed is the primary reason that some people never respond to certain healing modalities...

·         The lesson with an energy matrix is to learn mastery of the matrix itself, thereby turning detriments into attributes.

·         How can you learn mastery of a matrix?

·         Our definition of mastery is finding positive uses for negative attributes.

·         Mastery is…a way of life that is practiced over time.

·         The other important thing about energy matrices is that once we have achieved mastery over them, we often move into teaching.

·         …other people start responding.

·         …most of us teach about some other area of passion in our lives, but somehow, within our teaching, the lessons are subtly conveyed.

·         …so it continues, with ‘the sins of the father’ begin visited on each successive generation until some member of this family makes a conscious choice to break the chain and do the inner work necessary to release this energy stamp.

·         ..that old score keeping system is no longer valid or necessary.

·         Karma within groups, and long term karma...

·         …has been released, since, in this higher state, it is no longer needed to accomplish the advancement of humanity.

 

 

Chapter 8

The 12 Primary Life Lessons

Path to Mastery

·         …when people begin to master this life lesson by learning to place themselves first, and defining where their energy ends and another’s begins, that they can fully step into their healing work.

·         If two people are both working on their individual life lessons simultaneously, they will have a tendency to grow together. 

·         But if they are working on their primary life lessons at different rates they will more than likely grow apart.

·         The real challenge in relationships occurs when one partner starts advancing rapidly in their life lesson and the other person makes no forward movement at all, or worse, resents their partner’s growth.

·         …the differences in advancement will place these two people at vastly different vibrational levels.

·         “Bump” contract.

·         The really is that not all relationships are meant to be for the long term.

·         ..complete.

·         The key to mastering each of the twelve Life attributes lies in discovering its higher purpose.

·         If it is an energy stamp, the key to healing and releasing it will be found within the life experience that created the stamp.

·         If it is an energy matrix, remember, this is an attribute that can never be healed; it can only be mastered.

·         ..due to a belief system that they are unworthy.

·         If it is part of their energy matrix, it can only be mastered through learning the Art of Graceful Acceptance and understanding that energy is a flow and not a destination.

·         ..it’s important to start allowing energy to flow through you in every possible way.

·         Look for areas where the energy may be stuck and work to release it.

·         Responsibility is the balance to personal power.

·         The equation is simple: If you wish to create more success in your personal life, then you must accept more personal responsibility for your own happiness.

·         ..her securities lie within her.

·         …it is impossible to achieve a higher vibrational status without change.

·         Souls that have chosen this area of mastery generally do everything possible to keep everything in their life on an even keel.  They believe that in order to succeed they need to keep everything just the way it is, under their control, unchanging.

·         They often tend to attract teachers who think just the same way they do.

·         These are also people who have a difficult time balancing their hearts and their heads.

·         They tend to think instead of feel, rationalizing every bit of information before making any decisions.

·         In fact, they often have a very hard time making any decisions at all.

·         This particular attribute can be very deceptive because it does not always appear to be a hindrance.  Quite often, it is not until these people are faced with drastic change that they realize they are totally unprepared and unequipped for it.  The paradox is, the comfort they seek is often best served by becoming comfortable with the process of change itself.

·         …go with the flow.

·         The illusions of the field of polarity in which we still reside conspire to make us believe that we are not whole.

·         The Primary Life Lesson of Be-ing many times leads to addictions.

·         The problem is that it’s virtually impossible for two people to grow exactly the same rate, so it’s only a matter of time before one person grows and the other, inevitably, falls.

·         ..it’s often those with the biggest and most loving hearts who are battling with weight problems.

·         …these people find it almost impossible to their own beauty.

·         …an energy matrix cannot be changed, it can only be mastered. 

·         The lesson here is to first learn to see yourself in a completely different light – i.e., as being whole and complete just the way you are at this very moment, and to learn to bless and to love your body.

·         …once our energy is centered to the degree that we can function well, it then becomes essential for us to reach out to others.

·         As we become more evolved, we are becoming more unity conscious.

·         ..giving, by itself, only results in creating dependencies that feed on themselves, thereby breeding further dependencies. 

·         True Charity, in terms of a life attribute, means honoring the connection we have to all people, and practicing this in all our actions.

·         When our actions honor all people we are the ones who rise.

·         In order to apply Charity, however, we must first learn to center our own energy.

·         The way I work when having a session with people is to encourage them to make their own connections by triggering insights with questions.

·         I never try to take their power away from them.

·         …the sphere of relationships.

·         ….objective is not, as so many believe, to complete one’s self with another, but rather, to learn to walk alongside another, and share your life together without either of you learning too much on the other.

·         Sharing truth is the essence of what creates a good relationship.  But in truth, there is only one relationship in the new energy, that is the relationship of You with you.

·         …if one person changes and the other refuses to change along with them, the relationship will fall apart.  But if both partners are working on their individual life lessons, what typically happens is that they may pull apart for a while and then come back together again to build a new relationship within the same framework.

·         ..we alone hold the power of creation within our own thoughts.

·         A belief in lack, and also sometimes perfectionism, often provide the perfect excuse for these people to not even try to create for themselves.

·         The key to mastering this life lesson is to find the balance to personal power, which lies in RESPONSIBILITY.

·         ..take more personal responsibility.

·         Learning to hold our own power of Creation while in physical form is second only to Grace as the most difficult life lesson to master.

·         ..We are God.

·         The truth is, we are incapable of making a mistake, for the simple reason that if we are unhappy with the reality we have created, all we have to do is claim responsibility for our creation, and then undo it and start again.

·         Abundance is an excess of energy in any given situation.

·         ...truth is we are actually infinite in energy.

·         Most people engaged in mastering this lesson tend to be healers with great emotional empathy.

·         The key to mastering this very popular but difficult life lessons lies in learning to place one’s self first.

·         The fact is, despite society’s efforts to persuade us otherwise, placing ourselves first in all areas is the most important of all.

·         ..there is a huge difference between those who are selfish and those who put self first.

·         …the intent is to fill one’s self first in order that one has even more to give to the others.

·         The paradox is, this extreme sensitivity is precisely what makes theses people such powerful healers.

·         .. ‘no’ is the most powerful word they can learn to use.

·         ..it doesn’t matter whether a person is intentionally controlling or simply misguided, manipulation is manipulation.  No one has the right to influence another’s behavior or take away their power by imposing their wishes or belief systems on them.

·         ..not bad people, it’s just the way their life lessons interacted with her own.

·         …learn to draw firm boundaries and be able to say “this is mine, and this is yours.

·         I won’t stop being aware of your energy or empathizing with your emotions, but I won’t take responsibility for your feelings.

·         …defining who you are and what you stand for, which is something we all find attractive in another.

·         …in the final analysis, all kids really want is for their parents to be happy.

·         ..but what they were saying?

·         Aligning each of these facets to send out a single congruent vibration is the challenge. 

·         The attribute of Integrity is defined as being able to align all these different facets and aspects to form one single harmonious, vibrational line of Integrity.

·         These Four Vibrational Lines of Integrity comprise:

·         1. What we speak

·         2. How we act

·         3. What we think

·         4. What we believe.

·         If one or more these energetic lines do not match the others, the vibration we transmit will become blurred an unclear.

·         Aligning our own personal lines of vibration is all that is required to place ourselves in a state of vibrational Integrity.

·         Learning to walk consciously in total harmony is the most important step in the mastery of Integrity.

·         … it is the flaws in a person’s makeup that make them interesting.

·         …seeing integrity issues in his life, which is the first sign of mastery.

·         I try not to tell people what to do.  Instead, I prefer to give them an overview of things, show them how their past histories have shaped their present, and what this means, so they can gain some understanding of their contracts and life lesson, and get a glimpse for themselves of what they can identify and acknowledge the patterns at work in their life, they can make the choice to change things or not.

·         …ask people close to you for feedback on his behavior and actions.

·         …she did her best to avoid such situations.

·         …she had schooled herself to pay close attention to others reactions, and she used this feedback as a yardstick.

·         The key to mastering the life lesson of Love lies in learning to Love our selves unconditionally and first.

·         Love is the base energy of all that we call Universal Energy. 

·         All energy emanates from a foundation of Love, and we all experience this base energy as the emotion of Love.

·         Emotions are the connecting link between the Energy Matrices and the Energy Tubes on which all life experiences are carried.

·         Living in a field of polarity, we humans need to experience one polarity in order to understand the opposite polarity.

·         The strongest of all emotions is Love, and the opposite of (or polarity to) Love is Fear.

·         This is why those working with a primary life lesson of Love will often get stuck in a cycle of fear.

·         In order for people to see and experience love, they must be able to experience the direct opposite of love.

·         The opposite of love is the vacuum that is left when no love is present.

·         …love is the base of all energy, …fear the base of all lack.

·         Fear is only a lack of love.

·         …it is only possible to Love another to the degree that one loves one’s self.

·         God is within and not without.  This is why we must learn to love self first.

·         …have a lot more success if…they concentrated on looking for ways to give love.

·         For it is only through the act of giving love that we can set up the energy to be love, and therefore, to receive love.

·         In the higher vibrations of the new planet Earth we will start experiencing more unconditional Love.

·         Are you looking for two people to come together in the hope that they will make one whole person?

·         …if one person should move the other invariably falls.

·         One of the most important things we need to know about relationships in the higher dimensions is that the more we learn to practice unconditional love, the fewer unrealistic expectations we will have of our partners, thus the less opportunity there is for us to be disappointed, or for things to go wrong.

·         ..they can do anything they want to, if they only put their mind to it.

·         Ultimately the life lesson of Trust is about learning to trust one’s own self above all others.

·         .. ‘follow one’s self’.

·         …finally have learned to trust themselves enough to no longer need to know.

·         Trust is an extremely important life lesson to master, for Trust allows us to become part of the whole by placing us in the flow of Universal Energy.

·         When we lack trust, we lack faith.

·         ..spiritual quest.

·         Mastery of this life lesson also leads to the understanding that truth is based entirely on one’s own perception and that it is through the art of shifting perception that one can see many truths beyond one’s own.

·         Once you start taking responsibility for you own reality, your mastery of Truth will begin.

·         …have the courage of his convictions, to find out what is really important to him (as opposed to accepting others’ truths and standards), and live a life that is in alignment with his soul purpose.

·         “This work is about empowerment and, therefore, I am not going to tell you which way to turn, nor am I going to tell you what you should or should not do.

·         The whole point of these sessions is to simply show you your own life patterns from a different perspective so that you can see all of your choices more clearly.

·         The important thing to know about truth is that it is not a stationary object, but rather and evolutionary process.

·         As we grow and evolve so too does our perception of ‘truth”

·         One only has to formulate the question to find that the answer comes from within.

·         Grace is the final step to Mastery.

·         In addition to being the very last life lesson we work to master, Grace is also the most beautiful.

·         “I love my life, I can’t wait to see what today holds”?

·         Grace is the connection to… Universal Energy.

·         The greatest challenge for anyone working with the life lesson of Grace is to learn to accept that very few people can grasp the deep Universal truths that they know and yet cannot express in words.

 

Conclusion

·         To put it simply, what we are really here to learn is the Art of Mastery itself. The definition of Mastery is finding positive uses for all energy in all situations.

·         When we attain this, we will finally remember our true power as Creators.

·         We are experiencing an evolution on a scale never before seen.

·         …ascension…

·         ..to start the life process over again, while remaining in physical form.

·         …start the seven stages of life over again.

·         Imagine taking all of your life experiences one by one, and then deciding which ones you want to keep with you and carry forward into your next lifetime, and which ones you would rather release.

·         …to plan our next incarnation and set up all the necessary contracts without even having to leave one’s present life behind.