CANADIAN CULTURE OF PEACE PROGRAM (“CCOPP”) TOOL KIT - PERSONAL

TO DO – THE PERSONAL PEACE TOOL KIT

[Note - this tool kit is still under development but we wished to make it available at the earliest opportunity.  Comments and suggestions are welcomed to info@peace.ca ]

 

“The unexamined life is not worth living.”  Socrates 

“The goal is important only as an idea: the essential thing is the opus (i.e. the work on oneself which leads to the goal: that is the goal of a lifetime.” Carl Jung

Our goal in our peace work is “to help significantly reduce the human cost of violence, at home and abroad”.  The breakdown of our relationship with ourselves or key others brings the participants to a crossroads – one path leads to breakthrough and a ‘profitable’ experience, the other to personal breakdown and a ‘costly’ experience (there are huge costs in terms of psychological damage to selves, spouses, children, family and friends, as well as financial costs, reduced productivity, etc.).  Unfortunately, people are generally ill equipped to deal with relationships and breakdown – our parents didn’t know to teach us, we didn’t get taught at school, and most people can not afford the time and money to research and consult with expensive experts.  As you can see, this is a critical area of Peace Education that we can and should help advance.  Hence, it will go on our web site, in our Tool Kit, and become the subject of workshops, etc.

We hope this gives you some food for thought along your own journey.  Feedback and suggestions are welcomed.

1)      Personal Culture of Peace Programs: a long term, holistic systemic approach
http://www.cultureofpeace.ca – to develop personal area
http://www.peace.ca and specifically http://www.peace.ca/proposalsindividual.htm

We all were born into and have grown up in a Culture of Violence.  Our Society (including our schools) has done a poor job helping us to cultivate a Culture of Peace within ourselves and our relationships.  It is understandable that few of our parents had the skills and abilities to help.  The good news is that these skills and abilities are now being made available through new sources that we can all access, and take charge of our own transformation to a Personal Culture of Peace.

In the process of seeking peace, we are likely to give ourselves anxiety, pain and even depression – your mind can become a war zone.  Stress is the signal that it’s time to question your own thinking.    Seeking peace is how you lose the awareness of peace.  But you can only lose the awareness of it, not the state.  That’s not an option, because peace is what we all are.  Look around you and you will find peace in many ways, if you look hard enough – celebrate them. 
The spiritual secret that applies here is this: what you seek, you already are.
The U.N. Culture of Peace Program calls for the transformation of all institutions from a culture of violence to a Culture of Peace and Non-violence.  The first ‘institution’ that must go through this transformation is ourselves.  As Gandhi instructed us, “be the change you seek in the world”.  In a sense, our old selves (our selves raised in a culture of violence and reflecting it) must die in order that our new selves - our selves living a Culture of Peace and Non-violence – may be born.  We must truly be “Renaissance Men and Women”.  I suspect many of you are also labouring with your rebirth.  Each of us
has to find the actual experience of peace and calmness on our own. The secret for doing that is to free the mind. When it is free, the mind settles down. It gives up its restlessness and becomes a channel for peace.  As the UNESCO motto proclaims, “Since wars begin in the minds of men, it is in the minds of men that the defences of peace must be constructed.”  This applies to us as well as “them”.
I invite you to join me in this personal transformation.  A major goal over the next period will be to strengthen our section of the www.peace.ca web site on Building Peace at the Individual and Family Levels.  I will share with you some of the key tools that we have found, and their highlights. 

2)      Macro Peace: The Big Picture (to tailor to the personal level)
http://www.peace.ca/macropeace.htm  (to tailor to personal level)
 http://www.peace.ca/peacepie.htm  - conceptual map #1 (to tailor to personal level)
http://www.peace.ca/conceptmap.jpg  - conceptual map #2 (Figure 2 below)
http://www.peace.ca/groundworkforpeace.htm - medical analogy: ignorance/illiteracy (self violence) is a disease, we have the antidote

3)      Change Management
Video - Managing the Journey (Ken Blanchard) (Appendix 1 below)


4)      Peace Begins With Me/ Ted Kuntz
http://www.peace.ca/peacebeginswithme.htm
Being Peace, by Thich Nhat Hanh. http://www.peace.ca/beingpeace.htm
The Rules For Being Human
 (Appendix 2 below)

5)      Spirituality For Dummies (and a Resource for The Rest of Us)
http://www.peace.ca/spirituality_for_du_mm_ies.htm
The Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life, by Deepak Chopra http://www.peace.ca/bookofsecrets.htm
The Breakthrough Experience: A Revolutionary New Approach to Personal Transformation, by John Demartini http://www.peace.ca/breakthroughexperience.htm
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, by Deepak Chopra  http://www.peace.ca/spirituallaws.htm
I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking … and Start Finding …, by Byron Katie http://www.peace.ca/isthattrue.htm
The Greatest Miracle in the World, by Og Mandino http://www.peace.ca/greatestmiracle.htm
Spiritual Psychology: The Twelve Primary Life Lessons.  Information for Facilitators of Human Evolution By Steve Rother
Power Freedom and Grace: Living from the Source of Lasting Happiness - A Lifetime of Wisdom, By Deepak Chopra
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of The Tao, By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

 

6)      New Modalities of Change/Transformation/Healing  – (Psych-K, Yuan, Matrix Energetics, etc.)
http://www.peace.ca/psych-kandpeace.htm - balancing subconscious and conscious beliefs

7)      Stress Reduction
Purpose and goals
Elimination of the negative (people, media)
Bringing in the positive (people, media)
The Joy of Stress video (Appendix 3 below)

 

8)      Meditation


9)      Yoga, T’ai Chi, Qigong
“Spiritual practices that involve the physical body, such as t’ai chi, qigong, and yoga, are also increasingly being embraced in the Western world.  These practices (create a unity) between body and spirit and are helpful in weakening the pain-body.  They will play an important role in the (personal and) global awakening.”  Eckhart Tolle

10)   Physical Health


11)   Empowerment
http://www.peace.ca/empowerment.htm


12)   Social Intelligence: How to Build Better Relationships
http://www.peace.ca/socialintelligence.htm


13)   Self Realization: The New Revelations – going from living unconsciously to being conscious (Figure 1 below)
Path of Light: Stepping into Peace with A Course in Miracles, By Robert Perry
A RETURN TO LOVE: Reflections on the Principles of a Course in Miracles, By Marianne Williamson
http://www.peace.ca/conversationswithgodbook1.htm
http://www.peace.ca/conversationswithgod2.htm
http://www.peace.ca/conversationswithgod3.htm
http://www.peace.ca/new_revelations.htm
The Power of Now, by Eckhardt Tolle
The New Earth, by Eckhardt Tolle

14)   Transformative Communication
http://www.peace.ca/difficultconversations.pdf
http://www.peace.ca/crucialconversations.pdf
http://www.peace.ca/crucial_confrontations.htm
http://www.cnvc.org

15)   Conflict Transformation
http://www.transcend.org/tpu/new/AdvPCT_all.html


16)   Personal Financial Management for Financial Independence



17)   Transforming Intimate Relationships
Resources to help build key relationships with our beloved http://www.peace.ca/proposalsfamily.htm
There is what appears to be a great risk we take if we truly follow the Spiritual Path necessary to build peace at the individual level and family level, and ultimately the community and world levels.  In a way, we “betray” our family and friends because we change and are no longer the people they expected us to be.  If they do not also develop themselves, then the gap (and misunderstanding) widens.  It is incumbent upon us, if we want to retain those relations, to “come back to communicate, teach and help others”. 

18)   Healing (all relations)
Truth and Reconciliation Commissions
Trauma Healing
Forgiveness and Restorative Justice

19)   Servant Leadership, Situational Leadership & Self Leadership – Organizing for Success
http://www.peace.ca/servantleadership.htm
http://www.peace.ca/peaceleader.htm  


20)   Annual Personal Education Conferencing

 

21)   Email Listservers and Other Communication Tools

 

22)   Home Peace Programs: Model a Culture of Peace at Home

 

23)   Training the Teacher Within
The best way to learn is to teach – teach others and teach yourself

24)   Curricula
http://www.peace.ca/curricula.htm

 

25)   Videos and Peace Libraries
http://www.peace.ca/topten.htm
http://www.peace.ca/peacecafeinventory.htm
 http://www.peace.ca/info.htm

26)   Social Entrepreneurism: Personal Centres for Teaching Peace and Peace Cafés
http://www.peacecafe.ca
How to Make one Hell of a Profit and still get to Heaven, by John Demartini http://www.peace.ca/profit.htm


27)   Transformation Teams: Helping People en Mass

28)   Personal Transformation for Youth

29)   Open Space Technology: Opening Space to Open Minds to Peace
http://www.peace.ca/ost.htm
Meeting in Support and Working Together
Building
on the Foundations of Personal Peace

30)   Advanced Reading:
Re-member: A Handbook for Human Evolution, By Steve Rother & the Group
The Emotional Freedom Technique, by Gary Craig  http://www.peace.ca/eft.htm
A COURSE IN MIRACLES, Combined Volume, Published By Foundation For Inner Peace
Autobiography of a Yogi, By  Paramahanda Yogananda
MAN’S ETERNAL QUEST And other talks, By Paramahansa Yogananda
JOURNEY TO SELF-REALIZATION: Collected Talks And Essays On Realizing God In Daily Life, Volume III, By  Paramahansa Yogananda
A World In Transition: Finding Spiritual Security In Times Of Change, By Paramahansa Yogananda et al
Universal Laws

31)   Sixth Senses (Intuition, ESP, etc.)

Other

 


Figure 1: Maslow’s Hierarchy

The goal is to ascend to Self-Actualization and Self-Realization.



Figure 2 – Conceptual Map



MANAGING THE JOURNEY (Ken Blanchard)   Video Highlights                               APPENDIX 1

Effective change takes 2 to 5 years.

4 Levels of Change (The Change Model):

Knowledge (increase knowledge)

Attitude (change attitudes - motivation)

Individual Behaviour (change individual behaviour)

Group (Organizational) Behaviour (change group behaviour)

 

7 Wonders of Change:

                                                                                               solution

1. People will feel awkward, ill at ease,                 - more information to deal with it

    discomfort, self conscious                                  

2. People will think first about what they              - mourning session (for what they lost)

    have to give up (the cost)                                  

   - what you resist persists vs. if you

    deal with what troubles you, the very

    dealing with it will help

3. People will feel alone even if every-                  - help each other, structure interaction

   one is going through changes                               

4. People can handle only so much change           - priorize

   - they will quit when overloaded

5. People are at different levels of                          - let quick changers lead

   readiness for change - some people                      

   love change (it can be situational)

6. People will be concerned they don't have         - need help in realizing they have enough resources

   enough resources (reality is, often you                  

   cant give more resources)                                     

7. If you take the pressure off, people                    - manage the journey

   will revert back to old behaviour

   (relapse is natural)

Participative Change - buy in, but its slow                 } want a bit of both

Coercive Change - its fast, but no buy in                   }  (balance)

 

 

 

Turning the Organizational Pyramid upside down

Steps:

1.            Tell

2.            Show

3.            Let them try

4.            Observe

5.            Praise progress or redirect

For the long term race - empower staff

Changing behaviour - the longer you have been doing something, the harder to change.

Most effective change is "what happens when you are not there"

 

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CONCLUSION

The typical seminar participant is a "Disillusioned Learner":

- information level is increased - know the weaknesses and problems, and hopefully the solutions

- tough solutions are required - can they do it?

- you need support, need more information and skills

We live in a complex, and in some cases, unfair world: that is the challenge.

If you are not spending at least 50% of your time on one goal, it is not a priority.

We need a Framework - a Philosophy (a predictable behaviour of management = management style or 'culture')

 

Framework/Philosophy Secrets:

1. Public (customer) satisfaction

2. People (staff) satisfaction

3. SMART goals

Are you part of the problem, or part of the solution?

VISION: IF WE CAN INTRODUCE PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION EN MASS, ONE DAY SOON PEOPLE WILL LOOK UP AND SEE WE HAVE CREATED AN ENLIGHTENED SOCIETY.

Take the tombstone test

     1. Write your epitaph;

     2. 2015: describe your perfect day

Share it with others (your people, spouse, kids) - the greatest thing you can contribute to others is the knowledge and assistance for them to become successful.  It is not something you do to people, it is something you do with people.

THE WONDERFUL PARADOX: IF THEY ARE SUCCESSFUL - YOU WILL BE SUCCESSFUL (turn them into heroes/winners) => THE SERVANT LEADER



THE RULES FOR BEING HUMAN                                                                                       APPENDIX 2

 

1. YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.

 

2. YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS. You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.

 

3. THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY LESSONS. Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The 'failed' experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately 'works'.

 

4. A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL IT IS LEARNED. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it then you can go on to the next lesson.

 

5. LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT END. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

 

6. "THERE" IS NO BETTER THAN "HERE". When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will, again, look better than "here".

 

7. OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF YOU. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

 

8. WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU. You have all the tools and resources you need; what you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

 

9.THE ANSWERS LIE INSIDE YOU. The answers to life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.

 

10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS!  (unless you be conscious)



 

The Wheel of Life (ref. http://www.transitionslifecoaching.co.uk/resources.php )

How balanced is your life at present?

The Wheel of Life

Each segment of the wheel represents one area of your life. Consider each section - how satisfied are you with all these areas of your life? Are you putting as much time, energy and attention into these areas as you would like? The centre of the wheel is 0 and means you are totally dissatisfied; the outer edge is 10 and represents full satisfaction and achievement. Decide your degree of satisfaction from 0 to 10 and mark it on the relevant spoke. Now draw a line to join your degree marks together. How balanced is your life? Which areas make you happy, satisfied and fulfilled? Which areas need improvement?



THE JOY OF STRESS (Peter Hanson): Book & Video Highlights                                    APPENDIX 3

Tools:

Perspective

Versatility (to change a few habits) - without versatility (to change) perspective is worthless

Its not the stress, but how you manage it

STRESS = CRISIS + OPPORTUNITY

Secrets:

1. Drink 8 glasses of water a day

2. 5 Weak Choices:

Bad Diet (make the right nutrition choices)

Obesity

Wrong Job

Financial Management

Workaholic

3. Annual Blood Test

4. Be Versatile

5. The Coach (don't isolate yourself) - importance of a good support system

6. No Smoking

7. Type A vs. B (hurry sickness) - unrealistic timetables, inability to relax 6 delegate or contract out less important tasks, humour, join the B-Team (Be organized, Be calm, Be the winner)

8. Be a good listener (positive interaction) don't be evaluative,      - what you resist persists

9. Catch people doing things right (do you want the relationship to work? its either Yes or No, not try) put something in your       human relations bank

10. Look both ways - take extra time

11. 5 Strong Choices:

Good Diet

Don't waste your spare time (eg. exercise)

Power Nap

Set realistic goals

Work for a stable home life

12. Invest in humour

13. Exercise (3 hours of 168 each week)

14. Take time to communicate

15. Clear goals, set up feedback (measurements)

16. Balance their lives: professional self and personal self

17. Leave your work at home (1 year from now important? take a mental helicopter ride and look at your behaviour)

18. Delegate

19. Teamwork: pull together

20. 3 Principles:

Pamper yourself (eg. contract out)

Stop stonewalling (eg. blame uncontrollable factors such as "the problem is at the top", "not enough budget")

Concentrate on those things you can change (eg. use your time efficiently)

21. Take control (peak performers support and direct themselves)