CANADIAN
CULTURE OF PEACE PROGRAM (“CCOPP”) TOOL KIT - PERSONAL
TO DO – THE PERSONAL PEACE TOOL KIT
[Note - this tool kit is still under development but we wished to make it
available at the earliest opportunity. Comments and suggestions are
welcomed to info@peace.ca ]
“The unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates
“The goal is important only as an idea: the essential thing is the opus (i.e. the work on oneself which leads to the goal: that is the goal of a lifetime.” Carl Jung
Our goal in our peace work is “to help significantly reduce
the human cost of violence, at home and abroad”.
The breakdown of our relationship with ourselves or key others brings the
participants to a crossroads – one path leads to breakthrough and a
‘profitable’ experience, the other to personal breakdown and a ‘costly’
experience (there are huge costs in terms of psychological damage to selves,
spouses, children, family and friends, as well as financial costs, reduced
productivity, etc.). Unfortunately,
people are generally ill equipped to deal with relationships and breakdown –
our parents didn’t know to teach us, we didn’t get taught at school, and
most people can not afford the time and money to research and consult with
expensive experts. As you can see,
this is a critical area of Peace Education that we can and should help advance.
Hence, it will go on our web site, in our Tool Kit, and become the
subject of workshops, etc.
We
hope this gives you some food for thought along your own journey. Feedback
and suggestions are welcomed.
1)
Personal Culture of Peace Programs: a long
term, holistic systemic approach
http://www.cultureofpeace.ca – to
develop personal area
http://www.peace.ca and specifically http://www.peace.ca/proposalsindividual.htm
We all were born into and have grown up in a Culture of Violence.
Our Society (including our schools) has done a poor job helping us to
cultivate a Culture of Peace within ourselves and our relationships.
It is understandable that few of our parents had the skills and abilities
to help. The good news is that these
skills and abilities are now being made available through new sources that we
can all access, and take charge of our own transformation to a Personal Culture
of Peace.
In the process of seeking peace, we are likely to give ourselves anxiety, pain
and even depression – your mind can become a war zone.
Stress is the signal that it’s time to question your own thinking.
Seeking peace is how you lose the awareness of peace.
But you can only lose the awareness of it, not the state.
That’s not an option, because peace is what we all are.
Look around you and you will find peace in many ways, if you look hard
enough – celebrate them. The
spiritual secret that applies here is this: what
you seek, you already are.
The U.N. Culture of Peace Program calls for the transformation of all
institutions from a culture of violence to a Culture of Peace and Non-violence.
The first ‘institution’ that must go through this transformation is
ourselves. As Gandhi instructed us,
“be the change you seek in the world”. In
a sense, our old selves (our selves raised in a culture of violence and
reflecting it) must die in order that our new selves - our selves living a
Culture of Peace and Non-violence – may be born.
We must truly be “Renaissance Men and Women”.
I suspect many of you are also labouring with your rebirth.
Each of us has to find the actual experience of
peace and calmness on our own. The secret for doing that is to free the mind.
When it is free, the mind settles down. It gives up its restlessness and becomes
a channel for peace. As the UNESCO
motto proclaims, “Since wars begin in the minds of men, it is in the minds of
men that the defences of peace must be constructed.”
This applies to us as well as “them”.
I invite you to join me in this personal transformation.
A major goal over the next period will be to strengthen our section of
the www.peace.ca
web site on Building Peace at the Individual and Family Levels.
I will share with you some of the key tools that we have found, and their
highlights.
2)
Macro Peace: The Big Picture (to tailor to the
personal level)
http://www.peace.ca/macropeace.htm
(to tailor to personal level)
http://www.peace.ca/peacepie.htm
- conceptual map #1 (to tailor to
personal level)
http://www.peace.ca/conceptmap.jpg
- conceptual map #2 (Figure 2 below)
http://www.peace.ca/groundworkforpeace.htm
- medical analogy: ignorance/illiteracy (self violence) is a disease, we have
the antidote
3)
Change Management
Video - Managing the Journey (Ken Blanchard) (Appendix 1 below)
4)
Peace Begins With Me/ Ted Kuntz
http://www.peace.ca/peacebeginswithme.htm
Being
Peace, by Thich Nhat Hanh. http://www.peace.ca/beingpeace.htm
The Rules For Being Human (Appendix
2 below)
5)
Spirituality For Dummies (and a Resource for
The Rest of Us)
http://www.peace.ca/spirituality_for_du_mm_ies.htm
The Book of
Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life, by Deepak Chopra http://www.peace.ca/bookofsecrets.htm
The Breakthrough
Experience: A Revolutionary New Approach to Personal Transformation, by John
Demartini http://www.peace.ca/breakthroughexperience.htm
The Seven Spiritual
Laws of Success, by Deepak Chopra http://www.peace.ca/spirituallaws.htm
I Need Your Love
– Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking … and Start Finding …, by Byron Katie
http://www.peace.ca/isthattrue.htm
The Greatest Miracle in the
World, by Og Mandino http://www.peace.ca/greatestmiracle.htm
Spiritual Psychology: The Twelve Primary
Life Lessons. Information for
Facilitators of Human Evolution By Steve Rother
Power
Freedom and Grace: Living from the Source of Lasting Happiness
- A Lifetime of Wisdom, By Deepak Chopra
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living
the Wisdom of The Tao, By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
6)
New Modalities of
Change/Transformation/Healing –
(Psych-K, Yuan, Matrix Energetics, etc.)
http://www.peace.ca/psych-kandpeace.htm
- balancing subconscious and conscious beliefs
7)
Stress Reduction
Purpose and goals
Elimination of the negative (people, media)
Bringing in the positive (people, media)
The Joy of Stress video (Appendix 3 below)
8)
Meditation
9)
Yoga, T’ai Chi, Qigong
“Spiritual practices that involve the physical body, such as t’ai chi,
qigong, and yoga, are also increasingly being embraced in the Western world. These
practices (create a unity) between body and spirit and are helpful in weakening
the pain-body. They will play an
important role in the (personal and) global awakening.” Eckhart
Tolle
10)
Physical Health
11)
Empowerment
http://www.peace.ca/empowerment.htm
12)
Social Intelligence: How
to Build Better Relationships
http://www.peace.ca/socialintelligence.htm
13)
Self Realization: The New Revelations – going
from living unconsciously to being conscious (Figure 1 below)
Path of Light: Stepping into Peace with A Course in Miracles,
By Robert Perry
A RETURN TO LOVE: Reflections on the Principles of a
Course in Miracles, By
Marianne Williamson
http://www.peace.ca/conversationswithgodbook1.htm
http://www.peace.ca/conversationswithgod2.htm
http://www.peace.ca/conversationswithgod3.htm
http://www.peace.ca/new_revelations.htm
The Power of Now, by Eckhardt
Tolle
The New Earth, by Eckhardt Tolle
14)
Transformative Communication
http://www.peace.ca/difficultconversations.pdf
http://www.peace.ca/crucialconversations.pdf
http://www.peace.ca/crucial_confrontations.htm
http://www.cnvc.org
15)
Conflict Transformation
http://www.transcend.org/tpu/new/AdvPCT_all.html
16)
Personal Financial Management for Financial
17)
Transforming Intimate Relationships
Resources to help build key relationships with our beloved http://www.peace.ca/proposalsfamily.htm
There is what appears to be a great risk we take if we truly follow the
Spiritual Path necessary to build peace at the individual level and family
level, and ultimately the community and world levels.
In a way, we “betray” our family and friends because we change and
are no longer the people they expected us to be.
If they do not also develop themselves, then the gap (and
misunderstanding) widens. It is
incumbent upon us, if we want to retain those relations, to “come back to
communicate, teach and help others”.
18)
Healing (all relations)
Truth and Reconciliation Commissions
Trauma Healing
Forgiveness and Restorative Justice
19)
Servant Leadership, Situational Leadership
& Self Leadership – Organizing for Success
http://www.peace.ca/servantleadership.htm
http://www.peace.ca/peaceleader.htm
20)
Annual Personal Education Conferencing
21)
Email Listservers and Other Communication Tools
22)
Home Peace Programs: Model a Culture of Peace
at Home
23)
Training the Teacher Within
The best way to learn is to teach – teach others and teach yourself
24)
Curricula
http://www.peace.ca/curricula.htm
25)
Videos and Peace Libraries
http://www.peace.ca/topten.htm
http://www.peace.ca/peacecafeinventory.htm
http://www.peace.ca/info.htm
26)
Social Entrepreneurism: Personal Centres for
Teaching Peace and Peace Cafés
http://www.peacecafe.ca
How to Make one
Hell of a Profit and still get to Heaven, by John Demartini http://www.peace.ca/profit.htm
27)
Transformation Teams: Helping People en Mass
28)
Personal Transformation for Youth
29)
Open Space Technology: Opening Space to Open
Minds to Peace
http://www.peace.ca/ost.htm
Meeting in Support and
30)
Advanced Reading:
Re-member:
A Handbook for Human Evolution, By Steve Rother & the Group
The Emotional Freedom Technique, by Gary Craig http://www.peace.ca/eft.htm
A
COURSE IN MIRACLES, Combined
Volume, Published By Foundation For Inner Peace
Autobiography of a Yogi, By
Paramahanda Yogananda
MAN’S
ETERNAL QUEST And other talks, By Paramahansa Yogananda
JOURNEY
TO SELF-REALIZATION: Collected
Talks And Essays On Realizing God In Daily Life, Volume III, By
Paramahansa Yogananda
A World In Transition: Finding Spiritual Security In Times Of Change,
By Paramahansa Yogananda et al
Universal Laws
31)
Sixth Senses
(Intuition, ESP, etc.)
Other
Figure 1: Maslow’s Hierarchy
The goal is to ascend to Self-Actualization and Self-Realization.
Figure 2 – Conceptual Map
MANAGING THE JOURNEY (Ken Blanchard)
Video Highlights
APPENDIX 1
Effective change takes 2 to 5 years.
4 Levels of Change (The Change Model):
Knowledge (increase knowledge)
Attitude (change attitudes - motivation)
Individual Behaviour (change individual behaviour)
Group
(Organizational) Behaviour (change group behaviour)
7 Wonders of Change:
solution
1. People will feel awkward, ill at ease, - more information to deal with it
discomfort, self conscious
2. People will think first about what they - mourning session (for what they lost)
have to give up (the cost)
- what you resist persists vs. if you
deal with what troubles you, the very
dealing with it will help
3. People will feel alone even if every- - help each other, structure interaction
one is going through changes
4. People can handle only so much change - priorize
- they will quit when overloaded
5. People are at different levels of - let quick changers lead
readiness for change - some people
love change (it can be situational)
6. People will be concerned they don't have - need help in realizing they have enough resources
enough resources (reality is, often you
cant give more resources)
7. If you take the pressure off, people - manage the journey
will revert back to old behaviour
(relapse is natural)
Participative Change - buy in, but its slow } want a bit of both
Coercive Change - its fast, but no buy in } (balance)
Turning
the Organizational Pyramid upside down
Steps:
1. Tell
2. Show
3. Let them try
4. Observe
5. Praise progress or redirect
For the long term race - empower staff
Changing behaviour - the longer you have been doing something, the harder to change.
Most effective change is "what happens when you are not there"
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CONCLUSION
The typical seminar participant is a "Disillusioned Learner":
- information level is increased - know the weaknesses and problems, and hopefully the solutions
- tough solutions are required - can they do it?
- you need support, need more information and skills
We live in a complex, and in some cases, unfair world: that is the challenge.
If you are not spending at least 50% of your time on one goal, it is not a priority.
We
need a Framework - a Philosophy (a predictable behaviour of management =
management style or 'culture')
Framework/Philosophy Secrets:
1. Public (customer) satisfaction
2. People (staff) satisfaction
3. SMART goals
Are you part of the problem, or part of the solution?
VISION: IF WE CAN INTRODUCE PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION EN MASS, ONE DAY SOON PEOPLE WILL LOOK UP AND SEE WE HAVE CREATED AN ENLIGHTENED SOCIETY.
Take
the tombstone test –
1. Write your epitaph;
2. 2015: describe your perfect day
Share it with others (your people, spouse, kids) - the greatest thing you can contribute to others is the knowledge and assistance for them to become successful. It is not something you do to people, it is something you do with people.
THE WONDERFUL PARADOX: IF THEY ARE SUCCESSFUL - YOU WILL BE SUCCESSFUL (turn them into heroes/winners) => THE SERVANT LEADER
THE RULES FOR BEING HUMAN
APPENDIX 2
1. YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY. You
may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time
around.
2. YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS. You
are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called life. Each day in this
school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons
or think them irrelevant and stupid.
3. THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY
LESSONS. Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The 'failed'
experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately
'works'.
4. A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL
IT IS LEARNED. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have
learned it. When you have learned it then you can go on to the next lesson.
5. LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT
END. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are
alive, there are lessons to be learned.
6. "THERE" IS NO
BETTER THAN "HERE". When your "there" has become a
"here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will,
again, look better than "here".
7. OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF
YOU. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects
to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE
IS UP TO YOU. You have all the tools and resources you need; what you do with
them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9.THE ANSWERS LIE INSIDE YOU.
The answers to life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look,
listen and trust.
10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS!
(unless you be conscious)
The
Wheel of Life (ref.
http://www.transitionslifecoaching.co.uk/resources.php
)
How balanced is your life at present?
Each segment of the wheel
represents one area of your life. Consider each section - how satisfied are you
with all these areas of your life? Are you putting as much time, energy and
attention into these areas as you would like? The centre of the wheel is 0 and
means you are totally dissatisfied; the outer edge is 10 and represents full
satisfaction and achievement. Decide your degree of satisfaction from 0 to 10
and mark it on the relevant spoke. Now draw a line to join your degree marks
together. How balanced is your life? Which areas make you happy, satisfied and
fulfilled? Which areas need improvement?
THE JOY OF STRESS (Peter Hanson): Book
& Video Highlights
APPENDIX 3
Tools:
Perspective
Versatility (to change a few habits) - without versatility (to change)
perspective is worthless
Its not the stress, but how you manage it
STRESS = CRISIS +
Secrets:
1. Drink 8 glasses of water a day
2. 5 Weak Choices:
Bad Diet (make the right nutrition choices)
Obesity
Wrong Job
Financial Management
Workaholic
3. Annual Blood Test
4. Be Versatile
5. The Coach (don't isolate yourself) - importance of a good support
system
6. No Smoking
7. Type A vs. B (hurry sickness) - unrealistic timetables, inability to
relax 6 delegate or contract out less important tasks, humour, join the B-Team
(Be organized, Be calm, Be the winner)
8. Be a good listener (positive interaction) don't be evaluative,
- what you resist persists
9. Catch people doing things right (do you want the relationship to work?
its either Yes or No, not try) put something in your
human relations bank
10. Look both ways - take extra time
11. 5 Strong Choices:
Good Diet
Don't waste your spare time (eg. exercise)
Power Nap
Set realistic goals
Work for a stable home life
12. Invest in humour
13. Exercise (3 hours of 168 each week)
14. Take time to communicate
15. Clear goals, set up feedback (measurements)
16. Balance their lives: professional self and personal self
17. Leave your work at home (1 year from now important? take a mental
helicopter ride and look at your behaviour)
18. Delegate
19. Teamwork: pull together
20. 3 Principles:
Pamper yourself (eg. contract out)
Stop stonewalling (eg. blame uncontrollable factors such as "the
problem is at the top", "not enough budget")
Concentrate on those things you can change (eg. use your time
efficiently)
21. Take control (peak performers support and direct themselves)