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  It's worth a closer look!  I Need Your Love: Is that true?: The Search For Love, Approval, And Happiness, By Byron Katie.  ISBN 1-4000-5107-X.  Published by Harmony Books.  - In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.  The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills—how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren’t. This approach doesn’t work. It leaves millions of walking wounded—those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love. I Need Your Love—Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most—the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover’s tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you’ve based your whole life on—and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness.  “Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love—seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.  This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” —Byron Katie.  5 star must reading.   [The following is what I highlighted during my read of this excellent book -- I recommend it on my Top-ten List of Peace resources.  My purpose in providing them is to interest you, the reader, and hope that you will obtain and read the complete work.  To properly understand the highlights, you need to read the book to put them in the proper context.  B.S.] 

INNODATA databank which contains descriptions of innovative projects in education including many devoted to peace education and education for international understanding. INNODATA is available on the Internet at http://www.ibe.unesco.org/Inf_Doc/Innodata/inno.htm

Internet Resources on Genocide and Mass Killings http://www.ess.uwe.ac.uk/genocide.htm is an extensive compilation of primary materials and annotated links related to "twentieth-century genocidal and mass man-made killing occurrences." Divided into fifteen sections, subject coverage includes topics such as The Jewish Holocaust, War Crimes and Criminals, Yugoslavia and Kosovo, among others.  Most of the original documents in the compilation have been uploaded to the site, facilitating navigation and research.  Documents not residing at the site are linked via succinct annotations.  The compilation is searchable and updated continuously by its creator Dr. Stuart D. Stein, Senior Lecturer in Sociology and Social Psychology at the University of West England.

Intervention Center - resources for alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, computer addiction, other self-destructive behavior.  'Helping people accept help'. http://www.intervention.com/

Kids Helping Kids Activities and Resources for Teaching Peace (UNICEF)http://www.unicefusa.org/issues96/sep96/guide/english.html

The revised 68-page Kindness to Kolleagues™ Handbook a user friendly step-by-step guide to implementing a Kindness to Kolleagues program in your organization - now available on line in PDF format (free of charge) or in hardcopy for a suggested contribution of $30. Please write olivia@kyoseiconsulting.com for more information.

Learning Peace website http://www.learningpeace.com/   Mission Statement - Parents do have the power to create peace in their homes. By mastering and modeling anger management skills, conflict resolution, and positive discipline strategies, parents can create more peaceful lives for themselves and their children. Thousands of parents have already done this - all it takes is commitment and the willingness to learn. Remember, you are the primary role models in your children's lives. They will learn what you show through your example. Peaceful parenting is not a distant vision. It's a concrete way of interacting within the family that's available to anyone who's willing to walk a new path.

The Loss of Happiness in Market Democracies - Robert E. Lane. 2000 Politics/Psychology.  480 pp. 23 illus. 6 1/8 x 9 1/4, ISBN 0--300--07801--3 $35.00.  Despite the fact that citizens of advanced market democracies are satisfied with their material progress, many are haunted by a spirit of unhappiness. There is evidence of a rising tide of clinical depression in most advanced
societies, and in the United States studies have documented a decline in the number of people who regard themselves as happy. Although our political and economic systems are based on the utilitarian philosophy of happiness--the greatest good for the greatest number--they seem to have contributed to our dissatisfaction with life. This book investigates why this is so.  Drawing on extensive research in such fields as quality of life, economics, politics, sociology, psychology, and biology, Robert E. Lane presents a challenging thesis. He shows that the main sources of well-being in advanced economies are friendships and a good family life and that, once one is beyond the poverty level, a larger income contributes almost nothing to happiness. In fact, as prosperity increases, there is a tragic erosion of family solidarity and community integration, and individuals become more and more distrustful of each other and their political institutions. Lane urges that we alter our priorities so that we increase our levels of companionship even at the risk of reducing our income.  "The day is near when people will discover the Sisyphusian nature of the pursuit of material goods as a source of lasting contentment and meaning. Professor Lane's well written and documented book will be the text of the new recognition that all who are out of poverty must formulate other goals in life than the amassment of objects during the day and their consumption at night."--Amitai Etzioni, author of The New Golden Rule.   "A book of great importance for our time. Lane asks whether our most treasured institutions--market economies and democratic political systems--are good for subjective well-being. He approaches this question with a breadth of knowledge and scholarship that is difficult to match."--David O. Sears, University of California, Los Angeles.   Robert E. Lane is Eugene Meyer Professor Emeritus of Political Science at Yale University. He is the author of many books, including, most recently, The Market Experience. YALE UNIVERSITY PRESS

The Manifesto 2000 for a Culture of Peace and Non-Violence (UNESCO) was written by the Nobel Prize Peace Laureats, in order to create a sense of responsibility starting on a personal level; it is not an appeal or petition addressed to a higher authority.  It is the responsibility of each and every individual to put into practice the values, attitudes and forms of behaviour which inspire the culture of peace. Everyone can contribute to this aim within their family, their area, their town, their region and their country by promoting non-violence, tolerance, dialogue, reconciliation, justice and solidarity on a daily basis.  The Manifesto 2000 has been made public in Paris on March 4th 1999, and is open to signatures for the wider public all throughout the world. The goal is to present 100 million signatures to the United Nations General Assembly meeting at the turn of the millennium in September 2000.  To make your pledge (and you can print out a version worth framing) go to http://manifesto2000.unesco.org/   and click on the language of your choice.

Martial Arts for Peace - The martial arts have a tremendously creative potential for teaching young people to resolve conflict peacefully and create fine moral character. Society is crying out for help in these troubled times, and the martial arts can be an intelligent and effective way to prepare our children to cope with today's challenges. To meet these urgent personal and social challenges of increased violence and the deterioration of ethical values, we need a different education beyond the teaching of academics, one that can teach our children the skills to resolve conflict and build character. Martial Arts for Peace can be this education for peace and social understanding. If they are to meet this obligation, martial arts schools of the 21st century will need highly trained Martial Arts for Peace Educators who have the necessary skills and resources to prepare their students to cope with these challenges. New Martial Arts for Peace training programs and innovative Martial Arts for Peace curricula will need to be developed in the evolution of these arts from self-defense and competitive sport to the greater mission of a peaceful and spiritual discipline that can address the social and individual ills of humankind. Martial Arts for Peace can teach the virtues of compassion, love, wisdom and respect, and the fine qualities that build a strong and honorable character in young people so that they may contribute to creating a more peaceful and gentler world. The original martial arts of peace that became, over time, the arts of war have paradoxically the transformative potential to again be peaceful and healing arts but only with the right vision and the right means to carry out this vision. We have to begin educating ourselves to be Martial Artists for Peace to make our dreams - our visions - a reality. It is those visionaries who put their dreams into practice who will elevate the martial arts to their rightful place in the education of our children and in society as a means to resolve conflict, build character, and create peace.  Web site http://www.atriumsoc.org/MartialArts/map.html .   Contact The Atrium Society, Box 816, Middlebury, VT, USA, 05753, telephone 1-800-848-6021, email atrium@atriumsoc.org  

Mental Disorders, Depression Set to Rise, UN Says from http://news.excite.com/news/r/010110/15/health-mentalhealth .  Updated 3:01 PM ET January 10, 2001 By Stephanie Nebehay GENEVA (Reuters) - Mental and neurological disorders--ranging from depression to Alzheimer's and epilepsy--strike 400 million people globally and are set to surge in the next two decades, the World Health Organisation (WHO) said on Tuesday.  The United Nations health agency predicted that by 2020, depression would jump to be the second greatest cause of death and disability worldwide, following ischemic heart disease.  WHO officials attributed the projected rise in depression to factors including more stressful lifestyles, poverty and violence. Alzheimer's disease, a debilitating dementia that hits the elderly, is expected to increase as people live longer.  They spoke at a news briefing to launch WHO's 2001 campaign aimed at removing myths and stigmas linked to such disorders, whose slogan is "Stop exclusion--Dare to care".  "This (campaign) is overdue, given that mental health is a major cause of disability, family and community distress and loss of production," said WHO's Dr. Derek Yach.  Dr. Benedetto Saraceno, director of WHO's department of mental health and substance dependence, said: "Mental health disorders, neurological diseases is a major public health concern worldwide. There is a common myth that mental health problems are those of rich, industrialised countries, a luxury."  "But mental and neurological problems are equally important in rich and poor countries," he added.  Some 400 million people today suffer from mental and neurological disorders worldwide, according to Saraceno.  "Unipolar major depression is today considered fifth in the ranking of major causes of disability and it is expected to jump to second place in 2020," he said.  At present, depression is the fifth leading cause of death and disability, while ischemic heart disease trails in sixth place, according to the Geneva-based WHO.  The table is currently topped by acute lower respiratory infections, according to the WHO, which says infectious diseases are generally expected to fall.  Depression, often genetic, hits roughly twice as many women as men, according to WHO experts.  The Americas and Western Pacific regions have the most victims of depression, with the lowest rates in Africa, according to Saraceno.  "Surveys in Brazil, Zimbabwe, India and Chile show the more impoverishment--measured by hunger, level of debt and education--the higher the prevalence of common mental disorders," said Yach, a South African.  Mental and neurological disorders represent 11% of the "global burden of disease", a figure based on mortality and disability, according to Saraceno.  The figure is expected to represent 14% in 2020, he said. "The good news is that mental health treatment does not require very expensive infrastructure."  "We know that 70 percent of those suffering from major depression can fully recover if properly treated," he added. "We can expect a decrease in suicides if we are properly treating depressed people."  Globally, there are one million suicides a year out of a total of 10 million attempts, he added. The top 10 countries for suicide are composed of all former Soviet Union states, led by Russia, where many are reeling in economic and social upheaval.  Schizophrenia, a chronic disorder, affects 45 million people worldwide, with about half of the victims achieving full "social recovery", according to Saraceno.  He praised India and China for their programmes for treating and supporting schizophrenic patients, combing use of generic psychotropic drugs and human resources.  "Different diseases are prominent in different regions, with one exception.  Schizophrenia is ubiquitous--you will find the same rate of schizophrenia in Los Angeles and central Africa, probably because there is a very strong genetic component."

PEACE BUILDING THROUGH MARRIAGE EDUCATION - Susan Heitler has written to remind us that marriage education is an
important aspect of peace education; not only because it fosters peace between couples, but also because "couples who model cooperation for their children teach by their actions, as well as by their instruction, that talking and listening gets people more of what they want in life than from fighting."  Susan's book "The Power of Two" and her video "The Angry Couple:  Conflict-Focused Treatment" are useful resources for college courses and workshops with couples.  For further information contact Susan Heitler at <heitler@henge.com>.

PGS announces the launch its "Peaceful Childhoods" education kits. This folder of materials has been developed for the use of parents, health practitioners, child care workers, teachers and anyone else who cares about children and the future. It is our hope that children reared nonviolently will grow into caring and nonviolent adults who are able to help achieve a more peaceful world.  The Peaceful Childhoods folder contains the following items: Children and the Media: Choosing Peaceful Story Telling brochure; Children and War Toys: Encouraging Peaceful Play brochure; Guns and Children: What Parents Need to Know brochure; Peaceful Childrearing: Fostering Peace in Our Homes brochure; Violence-free Zone poster; Family Covenant of Non-Violence; Additional Resources; Feedback form.  The Violence-free Zone poster can be displayed in waiting rooms, classrooms or playrooms to encourage peaceful play and to indicate an area where violent toys, games or video games are not permitted.  If you interested in receiving a copy of the kit or would like to have one sent to someone please contact me at pgs@web.ca .  Debbie Grisdale, Executive Director,  Physicians for Global Survival (Canada), #208-145 Spruce St., Ottawa ON CANADA  K1R 6P1; Tel: 613 233 1982 / Fax: 613 233 9028; www.pgs.ca

Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids: Practical Ways to Create a Calm and Happy Home by Naomi Drew.  Naomi Drew is the author of three books and has specialized in the field of conflict resolution and peacemaking for over 18 years. Her work is of great benefit to all people who care about children and care about living peaceful lives. She brings a unique perspective to parents and teachers by providing them with strategies to create peaceful homes and schools. Ms. Drew's work has been acclaimed over the years by many child development and educational leaders across the country. For example, Dr. Maurice Elias, co-author of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting, calls her latest book Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids, "a wonderful tool for parents." Michele Borba, Ed.D., Author of Parents Do Make a Difference, calls it "a gem that should be on every parent's nightstand," and Publisher's Weekly praises it as "inspiring and useful." In this current climate of youth violence, helping parents and teachers learn the skills of peacemaking is not only necessary, but essential.  We hope the Learning Peace website will provide you with plenty of practical information to get you on the path to peaceful parenting. For more information, and see introduction and table of contents, visit the website at http://www.learningpeace.com/

Peace Ideas, a quarterly publication of the Peace Center, Theosophical Society in the Phillipines; including Self-Transformation articles available online, featuring practical tips on handling anger and fear, intuition, global peace, ecology, parenting, meditation, etc. http://www.sequel.net/peace/

Peace Is the Way: Bringing War and Violence to an End, By Deepak Chopra.  ISBN 0-307-33981-5.  Published by Three Rivers Press 2005.  Chopra's latest work is prefaced by endorsements from four Nobel Peace Laureates, Muhammad Ali and an impressive array of other notables. Here, the Indian-born doctor and author of the bestselling The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success and other popular spiritual guides contends that the deeply ingrained human habit of resorting to violence can be ended by raising the consciousness of individuals until there is a global change in awareness, similar to the shift that took place when the age of science took hold. Chopra, whose bestsellers and celebrity-friendliness have saddled him with a reputation for being guru to the rich and comfortable, is refreshingly honest about the way our comfort and security are ultimately the fruits of war. "The satisfaction of waging war cannot be replaced by philosophy or religion," he writes. In addition to analysis, he offers daily practices of meditation, thought and actions on behalf of others as a way to live the truth of A.J. Muste's famous quote: "There is no way to peace. Peace is the way." Ultimately, however, the ego itself has to be disarmed to live the way of peace, he says: "For me as an individual to be free, I have to confront myself with questions about who I really am, and this is done in large part by examining the layers of false identity that I mistakenly call me." This is clearly harder to practice than it is to read. Still, Chopra's affirmation that "our true identity is at the level of spirit and nowhere else" has the ring of truth and so does the rest of this simple, practical, inspiring book.  Click on this link to read Highlights of the Book.

People Building Peace - 30 Success Stories from around the World.  This publication is an initiative of the European Centre for Conflict Prevention, the International Fellowship of Reconciliation (IFOR) and the State of the World Forum. It provides an overview of the activities of communities working for peace, offers a positive approach to the question of how people can live with one other, and clearly shows how individuals and small groups can make a real difference.  http://www.euconflict.org/

A POLICE REFERENCE MANUAL ON CRIME PREVENTION AND DIVERSION WITH YOUTH - This new manual builds upon information in the Police Reference Manual on Youth and violence provided to you in 1994. Like this publication, this manual is intended for both front-line officers and senior police managers. It provides front-line police with useful information to assist them in dealing with crime and safety concerns at the community level, and, equally important, it gives police managers the information they need to support community-based prevention efforts of front-line officers. http://www.sgc.gc.ca/epub/pol/e199675/e199675.htm

Progressive Letter Writing Cooperative - Would you like a cooperative way to get your voice heard in Washington? It's free!  Progressive Secretary sends out progressive email letters to Congress, the President, and other officials on peace, ecology, civil rights and other issues. The letters are suggested by participants in the cooperative and are sent to you as a proposal. If you tell us to "send", then the letters are sent to your Congress people and others noted in the proposal over your signature and return address. A report is sent to you. If you like, you can send the letters yourself. Letters are not sent without your specific OK. Your name and email are never given out except to recipients of your letters. There is no charge for this. We volunteer our time because Jim Harris jim@progressivesecretary.org and Pat Murphy pat@progressivesecretary.org are Quakers and long-time activists, and we believe in helping progressive people make their voices heard on important issues.  There are no advertisements or other annoyances.   You can cancel at any time. Some current letters include: Seattle Release WTO detainees and apologize; Cut Military Budget for 2000; Letter to President to Lift Iraq Sanctions; President listen to WTO protests; Guanajuato Keep pressure on Congeladora; Canada Oppose expansion of WTO; Canada:  Do Not Burn MOX fuel in Ontario Reactors; Clemency for Leonard Peltier; Review Comprehensive Test Ban Treaty; Oppose Istook Amendment; Support Feingold Bill to Abolish Federal Death Penalty; Stop Eviction of Dine'h at Black Mesa; Cease Bombing of Vieques; End the Cuban Embargo; Oppose Military Aid To Colombia; Persecution of Women in Afghanistan; Stop the Arms Race in Space; Pakistan Women Honor Killings; Grant an Evidentiary Hearing for Mumia; Change Florida Death Penalty Policies; Denial Of Financial Aid Is Racial Discrimination.  Web site http://www.progressivesecretary.org/

Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys by Dan Kindlon, PH.D./Michael Thompson, PH.D.

Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood, by William Pollack.  This is the brand-new one that I was impressed with. It actually critiques the stereotypes and tells how dangerous they are. 

Resources for Teaching Peace, Tolerance and Understanding Of Differences http://www.crcs.k12.ny.us/es/Stranger'sShoes/PTresource.htm

Roots  of  Violence  in  the  U.S.  Culture: A Diagnosis Towards  Healing by Alain J. Richard, 1-57733-043-9, 176 pp, paper, $ 14.95.  Today, our culture promotes an alarming trend toward ever increasing acts of violence.    When our children kill each other over articles of clothing or gangs murder for turf, it is a glaring sign that our youth have not learned to respect and revere life.    What kind of future leaders are we creating?  In addition to our legacy of violence, our culture has created a strong market (materialistic) economy with an insatiable desire for money and possessions.    We place more value on acquiring wealth than on spending time with our children, family, and friends.  Roots of Violence exposes the origins and current causes of the underlying, explosive rage pervasive in our culture today.    Understanding this is the first step toward healing our society.  For a copy, you can email chris@netshel.net or call 1-800-643-0765.   Please include your address. 

Safe Within is an ever-changing site that provides news and information relating to you and your family's safety, security, health, and sense of well-being. The format is interactive, SOLUTION driven, multimedia and updated DAILY. Along with valuable content, you will find various news groups, drawings, "Today's Safety News", "Top Tips", hyperlinked Resource lists, a listserv, and many opportunities for YOU to contribute and be recognized. Regardless of where you are or what you may be doing, it is our hope to make you feel more Safe Within your world. http://www.safewithin.com/ International travel safety reference http://www.safewithin.com/travelsafe/travel.internat.cgi

Stories for a New Day is a collection of peace fables for children and adults. Dragons and doves, old people and children spice these tales with optimism. Also included are dozens of words for Peace, names of peacemakers and more.  Readers say: “Most stories about Peace an stuff use big words and talk about things we don’t understand, but this book is easy to read and to understand. These stories show you can’t live without all the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle. I especially liked Enough… because it’s true!” Samantha Hamdon-Morison, age 10, Edmonton, Alberta; “Stories for a New Day offers readers – young and young at heart—hope for peace, healing and reconciliation.“ Gail Sidonie Sobat, author of Ingamald, and Coordinator of YouthWrite, a camp for young writers in Alberta; “Carolyn’s book is a gift. These are important stories for our children in a wobbly world – hopeful and empowering.” Karen Hamdon, Arab-Jewish Women’s Coalition for Peace, Edmonton, Alberta.  Carolyn Pogue is a Calgary writer, editor and workshop presenter. She is a co-founder of Women in Black, Calgary and a literacy volunteer. Her work for children and adults has been published in national magazines and on CBC. She is the author of 5 other books, including Language of the Heart: Rituals, Stories and Information about Death, and for children, A Creation Story.  Stories for a New Day is available at Pages Book Store, New Age Books and Crystals, Self Connection Books and McNally Robinson Books in Calgary, at Revelations Book Store in Edmonton, at United Church Resource Distribution Centre in Toronto, or from the address below.  40 pages, soft cover ISBN 0-9733284-0-1; $8.00.  Playing for Life 132 Scarboro Avenue SW, Calgary, Alberta T3C 2H1; Carolyn Pogue E-mail Address(es):   cpogue@shaw.ca

The Top 10 Principles of Individual Transformation http://www.topten.org/content/tt.BA7.htm

The Top 10 Questions to Ask Yourself...Regularly http://www.topten.org/content/tt.BA153.htm

The Top 10 Steps to Forgiveness http://www.topten.org/content/tt.BE1.htm

UNESCO publications: To live together: shaping new attitudes to peace through education, edited by Daniel S. Halperin. A summary and  the  table of contents are to be found on the IBE Web site at http://www.ibe.unesco.org/Publications/halperin.htm

William Oliver, The Violent Social World of Black Men. Jossey-Bass Publishers, San Francisco, 1994. ISBN: 0-7879-4305-3. In 1992, 94 percent of black murder victims were killed by members of their own race. Homicide rates among black men are generally six to seven times the rates among white men. Homicide is the leading cause of death for black males ages 15-34, and every homicide in this group there are 100 acts of nonfatal violent assault. In this important and timely work, William Oliver offers penetrating new insights into one of our society's greatest problems-interpersonal violence among black men.  The book can be ordered through the Chapters link on our home page.

Why Forgive - http://www.forgivenessguide.org/e-books/WhyForgive.htm - This is a full length ebook offered as a public resource. One of the stories in the book is that of Steven McDonald, a NYPD detective who was shot and paralyzed from the neck down and is dependent on a ventilator. The book tells his remarkable journey through anguish and anger to forgiveness: "The only thing worse than a bullet in my spine would have been revenge."  In the wake of the 1999 Columbine High School massacre, Steve and the book's author Johann Christoph Arnold decided to speak together at high school assemblies on conflict resolution. Their program stresses honest communication and forgiveness as a way of resolving conflicts and easing the tensions that linger afterward. It fulfills requirements placed on New York schools by the state's S.A.V.E. legislation to instruct the entire student body in nonviolent conflict resolution. They have spoken to over 30,000 high school students.

ZNet - A community of people concerned about Social Change.  This web site contains tons of information.  Web site: http://www.zmag.org/ .  Email sysop@zmag.org

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