"The Breakthrough Experience: A Revolutionary New Approach to Personal Transformation"

"The Breakthrough Experience: A Revolutionary New Approach to Personal Transformation"

By Dr, John F. Demartini

ISBN 1-56170-885-2

Published By Hay House Inc. May 2002

www.drdemartini.com

5 star must reading. [The following is what I highlighted during my read of this excellent book -- I recommend it on my Top-ten List of Peace resources. My purpose in providing them is to interest you, the reader, and hope that you will obtain and read the complete work. To properly understand the highlights, you need to read the book to put them in the proper context.]

Foreword by Blanca Diez, M.D., P.A.

According to Mohondas K. Gandhi, “if your wishes are pure, then they become true”.
Our thoughts…get deformed with dysfunctional thoughts, feelings, or beliefs. The Collapse Process transforms thoughts, beliefs, and feelings that were once deformed or dysfunctional into thoughts that are in perfect symmetry and order. As we transform out thoughts, we transform our feelings and transform our life.

Introduction

In the pages that follow, you will learn a formula for materializing your dreams, discover the secrets of opening your heart beyond anything you have imagined, find out how to increase your love and appreciation for every aspect of life, receive profound insights on how to create more fulfilling and caring relationships, reawaken your birthright as a true genius, transcend any fears and illusions surrounding the myth of death, and reconnect with your true mission and purpose for life on Earth.
…moved, challenged, and changed…

Chapter 1: The Essence of Life

…the truth that every single one of us has greatness and immortal genius inside.
It’s important to follow your vision, intuition, and inspiration so you can achieve what you’re here to accomplish in life.
…a common theme among all people: Everyone wants to love and be loved, to appreciate and be appreciated, and everyone wants to live his or her dreams.
…the science of love and appreciation…

Science and religion:

My goal is for you to open your heart wider than you may have ever done before, to allow you to get clearer about your purpose in life, to help you become more inspired about this magnificent universe we get to work in, and to enable your human mind to awaken to its divine birthright.
…we’ve never come across anything more magnificent than the human body, brain, and spirit.
“divine perfection”
Have you ever read or listened to something and gotten tears in your eyes and felt inspired? Those tears are an infallible clue that something meaningful and important for you is being revealed. Don’t ignore these times—keep a log of those moments, those insights and tears, and you will find a story being told by your intuitive spirit, a story linked to your destiny. It’s a gift from the part of you that knows, to the part of you that wonders. So write them down.

Gratitude is the Key:

“…count your blessings.”
When we see the underlying patterns and order in the universe, we come to an illuminating state of gratitude.
Gratitude is the key to growth and fulfillment
To those who are grateful, more is given. To those who are not, more is taken away
Nothing has ever happened or can happen to you that is not a gift and a blessing, but it’s difficult to be thankful until you find the hidden benefit in what may seem at first to be a negative event.

My First Mentor :

…there’s only two things that the world can’t take away from you: your love and your wisdom.

Divine Order:

Even the most terrible events always contain hidden blessings. The masters know this great truth and remain undisturbed by events…
Even greater wisdom recognizes that blessings can also trigger a crisis. When we truly understand that, we’re less likely to be upset about difficulties or elated about opportunities; we remain centered no matter what happens around us. That is one of the secrets of self-mastery.
Balance is neither pessimism nor optimism… It is “gratefulism,” and that is both wisdom and true power.
Right this minute you have everything you need to fulfill your life
When you’re truly grateful, you have simply woken up to it

The Great Discovery:

The Great Discovery: At any moment of your life, you will never be put down without being lifted up, nor lifted up without being put down. Positive and negative, good and bad, support and challenge, peace and war—all come together in pairs. They are simultaneous and perfectly balanced, and that is what makes up the divine order.
Each of us lives in duality…We have a part that lifts us up and another that puts us down.
No one ever victimizes us; they just reflect us
People treat you exactly the way you unconsciously treat yourself.
…one of the most powerful ways to transform your life is to become consciously aware of your beliefs and feelings about yourself.
My objective is to have you become aware that you’re surrounded by magnificent love every moment of your life

True Love:

True love emerges from a state of emotional balance. One of the purposes of having a partner is to maintain a loving equilibrium. If one partner is manic and up, the other partner helps bring them back down into balance. If one is down and depressed, the other will help lift them up. If one partner becomes cocky, the other brings them down. If one becomes deflated, the other helps them up. That’s how relationships work. This balancing act maintains the divine order, or true love.
I would get humbled because we’re not here to be right, we’re here to be love. These two sides make up true love
I wasn’t present with my family
I would humble myself and not walk into the house until I felt centered and present.
Like any true science that’s reproducible, if you do that, you will repeatedly have a loving partner at home.
The moment you realize this balance and observe the perfect equilibrium around you, you have become liberated. You know that the world is perfectly balanced, both within and without. Only then are you able to manage your own life and no longer be controlled by praise and blame. You begin to forge your own destiny and allow the enlightened part of you to direct your life, rather than let yourself be run by the part of you that hopes and fears.
When we begin to see the balance everywhere, we wake up to the possibility that maybe there’s a hidden order and intelligence behind it all.
Love is made up of two sides: support and challenge.
…supporting someone can make them weak and dependent, and that challenging them can make them strong and independent.
Nature won’t allow anything but equilibrium
…praise and blame are equilibrated…
Looking for elusive, one-sided events in a two-sided universe is the root of people’s so-called suffering. When you embrace the balance and the truth, love surrounds you.

The Master Dance:

To a master, there us no such thing as attacks.
…yin and yang…
If we can understand and embrace everything that comes our way, in the same spirit as this gentleman, knowing that it is not an attack, but an opportunity to refine and expand ourselves, we can turn our lives into the same masterful dance.
…they can run your life. The second you allow yourself to get elated or depressed about other people’s perceptions of you, or even your own illusory perceptions of yourself, you become disempowered…But the second you bring your mind to balanced awareness, you have the power of divinity working through you.
When you open your heart to Divine Intelligence, miracles happen in your life. Miracles are nothing but natural laws put into action by beings who understand their application. When you’re poised and centered, you have power…because you honor yourself and your life enough to embrace it all, the highs and the lows are in perfect balance.

Exercise 1:

Love is two-sided. When you deeply understand this great truth, you get to be surrounded by love every minute of your life.

Exercise 2:

Remember everyone who helped you today.
Going to sleep with a grateful, open heart is a powerful healing practice. Your dreams will become more inspiring and you will awaken in the morning with a lighter state of mind.

Words of Wisdom and Power:

· I am magnificent just the way I am

· I listen to my immortal nature, and it knows

· My true nature is love and wisdom. Wisdom is the instantaneous recognition that crisis is a blessing.

· Life is a gift. Thank you.

Chapter 2: Lighten Up

…your true nature…is nothing but love and light…
…it opens up to you the minute you unlock it with the key of gratitude.
Once you recognize and attune with your Divine Source by balancing your mind, you have access to an infinite energy.
This chapter is about how to access that infinite energy…this chapter may be the most challenging as well as the most rewarding.

Recurring Themes:

...instantaneous disappearance is called, “collapsing wave function.”
“No universe with intelligence is pointless…intelligence could persist for eternity—perhaps in the form of a cloud of charged particles (of light)—through shrewd conservation of energy.”

Being Here Now:

In human consciousness, when two complementary emotions or those with equal but opposite charges are brought together and synthesized into perfect balance, the emotions annihilate each other and birth the feeling of love and light.
All positive and negative particles in the universe are created simultaneously, in perfect one-to-one balance, but your senses misperceive local imbalances and can mislead you. Every time you splinter yourself into positive and negative emotions, you scatter your light, dissipate your energy potential, and disempower your true and centered being. In this way, you separate yourself into past and future, and you’re no longer present. When you bring your perceptions back into balance and become aware of how things truly are, you reverse the process.
The past holds memory, is emotionally based, and is dominated by the emotion labeled guilt. The future holds imagination, is also emotionally based, and is dominated by the emotion labeled fear. The loving essence of your true spirit is spaceless and timeless presence. Anytime you experience a future or past emotion, you dissipate your potential energy into a kinetic motion. But in a state of presence and love, you regenerate your kinetic energy and birth a new quantum of creative potential. The purpose of this book is to help you take your imbalanced emotions and reintegrate them back into the enlightening potentiality of true love.

Mothers and Fathers:

…when you love, the person becomes present with you…
One of the most profound things you will ever experience is a true open heart in the presence of the one you love.
…there is a parallel spiritual world; and your loved ones, wherever they are, will be there with you.

Tough-Love Science:

…all subatomic particles suck as protons, electrons, neutrons, quarks, and mesons are all actually waves.
Your idea of having a solid physical body is an illusion of your senses. Your body is made up of nothing but electromagnetically resonant waves.
You are made up of pure vibrating light waves, which physicists call quanta.
I’m talking about your being, your physical nature, as vibration. There are laws that govern those vibrations. When you apply those laws, you can understand what happens in life, and understanding is crucial to your illumination experience.
…the way the universe makes sure you learn love. The second you see more positives than negatives, you attract a situation where you see more negatives than positives to get them back in balance.
…symmetry law…
All phenomena are universally full-quantum.
That implies there must be no such thing as happiness without sadness, or sadness without happiness.
…both sad and happy.
…comparing their lives to a fantasy of what they thought it should be, and that’s where their happiness was. It was hidden in their virtual reality. But if I took them through The Quantum Collapse Process and merged the two emotional phases together, both disappeared and grateful love and light were birthed.
Right in the middle between positive and negative emotions, between like and dislike, is the core of human experience, and it is nothing other than love.
Love is a full-quantum state…massless, chargeless, spaceless, and timeless, which by definition is spiritual and unconditional.
Consciousness is light, and it comes in full-quantum states. God is full-quantum light.
Definition of love
“the synthesis or perfect blending of all dualistic perceptions, the summation of all polarities.”
All dualities, when totally synthesized, are love.
When you acknowledge life’s perfection by embracing both of its sides, you experience unconditional love.

Mother Love:

“In a dark time, the eye begins to see.” –Theodore Roethke
You can’t escape your full-quantum.
Gratitude is the key that opens the gateway of the heart
Gratitude makes you present with whatever you’re doing
…fulfillment is not possible when you deny half of your existence.
This book is not about the myth of happiness; it’s about the truth of balanced perception that brings you back to love.

Pain and Pleasure:

…balance your mind…
…pain and pleasure remain balanced at every moment, but you selectively attend to one side or the other and feel pleasure or pain accordingly.
You have the capacity at any given moment to realize this pleasure-pain partnership and bring your mind into balance. Doing so will release the love and light that lie dormant within you.
Love is simply a state of nonseparation, where you perceive no division between yourself and some aspect of the world…wholeness and oneness…
That’s what sets you above the ordinary and makes you extraordinary. To the degree you tap in to that state, your dreams are in your hands. You have access to an infinitude of possibility because you’re now tuning in to your infinite potential through the balance of love.
…inside the soul and the human heart of the individual is a core of radiant love.
That is the unified field theory… When you can tap in to that source, whatever you dream is yours. In that state, you know why you’re here, you’re filled with certainty, and your mind becomes clear and focused. When you feel worthy of having your dreams, they appear… Whatever you think about—and thank about—you bring about.
You have the power to create what you imagine, in the direct proportion to how much love and gratitude you have in life, because your self-worth allows you to magnetize and attract those things into your life and make your visions real. When you know that you are loved no matter what, you have great power.

Turning Lead into Gold:

When you see both particle sides, pleasure and pain equally, the lightbulb turns on.
We need that balance of support and challenge, of positive and negative feedback, to grow and evolve.
…we find the balance of duality. The degree to which we appreciate both sides and embrace life is the degree to which we become enlightened.

The Perfection of Two Sides:

Most people think that when they get something else, life will get better, but that kind of thinking only transforms the positives and negatives into new forms…if you think something will give you more positives than negatives, you’re living with an illusion.
When you don’t see the perfection of where you are, you take the pure energy of inspiration and dissipate it in emotional reactions.
Maximal evolution occurs at the border between attraction and repulsion, pleasure and pain, order and chaos, like and dislike. Between the extremes lie the light, love, and true power to create the life you aspire to.
All emotions are lies. The truth is love, but emotions are half-truths, distortions, and lies… We go through life merely living instead of embracing it all. We oscillate between our positive and negative emotions because we don’t love.
You don’t have command over anything that you have emotions about; you only have command over the things you love. Love is a perfectly equilibrated, divinely ordained state of consciousness that’s available to you 24 hours a day if you just balance your mind and don’t let it go off on emotional illusions.
…every expression and repression of emotion will run your life. Love is not an emotion; it transcends emotion.
Some say that love is blind, but it’s not; it sees clearly. Emotions are blind because they see only one side. When you run your life by infatuations and resentments, you disempower yourself.
The gift of this planet is that you’re surrounded by love, because the definition of love is both sides of experience: praise and reprimand, support and challenge, being lifted up and put down simultaneously. That is divine will.
When you see and honor this balance, your life is transformed; you are liberated.
There is a divine justice system, and you can’t screw it up.
…the divine justice system will do whatever it takes to equilibrate you.

The Bars Are Ours:

“Now that I have fulfillment. I appreciate my position in life. Thank you God.”
…they already are perfection…the duality is perfection…
The heart is more powerful than the intellect in this area. It knows the truth and waits patiently, while the mind slowly comes to an enlightening understanding. The rest of this book is devoted to waking your mind up to the perfection that already exists, so your heart can come forward and direct your life.

Exercise 1:

If you’re still judging yourself, beating yourself up for something you’ve done or not done, it’s time to look deeply and see how it served you and others and get on with your life.
…wake up and stop punishing yourself over any illusions.
You are truly worthy of love. Say this affirmation: “No matter what I have done or have not done, I am worthy of love.” When every single cell of your body gets it, so will you, and so will your world. When we love we step into the full quantum state, we align ourselves with the forces of life, and the power of the whole universe is suddenly behind us.

Exercise 2:

…there was not one person or event that didn’t equilibrate you and wake you up.
When you know everything serves you, what can stop you?

Words of Wisdom and Power:

· I am made of light. What can harm me?

· I am worthy of having all of my dreams come true.

· How is this helping me fulfill my destiny?

· Love is all there; everything else is illusion.

· No matter what I have done, or not done, I am worthy of love.

Chapter 3: Living Dreams

“…the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too… Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”
…we all have a mission for life.
Gratitude is the key to fulfillment. Gratitude and self-worth come hand in hand, and great worth comes from gratefully fulfilling our dreams.

My Great Mentor Appears:

…whoever has the most certainty rules…
Never lose the dream, because it is your love and your wisdom. Nothing can take it away from you.
Mandala—a balanced and harmonious symbol, drawing, or image of universal wholeness.
‘I am a genius, and I apply my wisdom.’…say it every single day and never miss a day, until every single cell in your body gets it. When every single cell in your body gets it, so will this world.
Bragg ruled my state of consciousness by his certainty, his presence, his love for the destiny that I was to unfold, and his gratitude for the laws of the universe that made it possible.
There’s power in maintaining your vision, inspiration, and purpose within, and in wisely choosing the people with whom you share it.

Dreams Come True:

…every cell in your body, every fragment of your consciousness, will start to harmonize and be with you.
…a disciplined decision to focus on my dreams no matter what.
A genius is one who sees the guiding light of their soul, listens to the internal message, and obeys.

The Price of Dreams:

To be a genius, you must be willing to do whatever it takes to achieve your dreams, but there’s always a price. There are three forces that motivate people. The first two are avoiding pain and seeking pleasure; these are fueled by desperation. The third, inspiration, transcends the others.
When you’re inspired, you embrace both pain and pleasure in the pursuit of your purpose.
Wisdom is looking back at your life and realizing that every single event, person, place, and idea was part of the perfected experience you needed to build your dream.
…the bigger the crisis, the larger the blessing.
If you want to excel at something, then let no day go by without dedicating your life 100 percent to making it happen. Time is precious.
“What is the key to success?”…”try really working eight hours a day. I mean, be present eight hours a day.”
“Just start telling people that you’re an international professional speaker.”
The masses wait to see it to believe it, but the master believes it then sees it.
Write it down!

The Dream is in the Detail:

“…I stay fully present and inspired.”
If you get absolutely crystal clear on exactly what you would love, and you can’t see anything but that, it’s almost impossible for you not to get it.

Miss Houston

…the best way to do what you love is to love what you’re doing right now.
If you know that no matter what happens, your life is serving your dreams, then nothing can stop you. The minute you truly commit to your dream, watch the universe immediately bring you the sustenance and the challenges necessary to fulfill it.

Secrets of an Inspired Life:

Living an inspired life requires mastering some skills, one of which is the ability to ask yourself inspirational, meaningful questions.
How can I do what I love and be magnificently paid for it? And don’t stop looking until you find the answer…Reframing the questions you ask yourself offers tremendous power.
The second secret to an inspired life is the Law of Greatest Efficiency…anyone or anything that doesn’t fulfill its purpose automatically decays. The matter that’s utilized in this universe gets dissipated and redistributed to those who are willing to fulfill their divine design.
The second you stop growing, you automatically undergo entropy.
Final secret…(this book show you) a more efficient way to listen to your heart and soul, the inner wisdom that is infinitely greater than any external teaching. It is the true teacher…
When you glimpse an understanding of the universal laws and divine order, when you awaken your sense of gratitude for the marvelous gift of life, you become inspired to live the dream you were created to fulfill.

Exercise:

Create the life you love.
Maintain an achievement and blessing journal

Words of Wisdom and Power:

· I see my dreams with crystal clarity.

· I am worthy of having my dreams come true.

· The pain of regret outweighs the pain of discipline.

· A genius listens to the guidance of the soul, and obeys.

· I am a genius, and I apply my wisdom.

· I do what I love and I love what I do.

Chapter 4: Both Sides Now

A vital element in living those dreams is the ability to remain centered and balanced, no matter what happens. In the center are the light, the spirit, the power, and the certainty that allow you to stay on your path, and they make up your true nature.
As long as you have lopsided perceptions instead of a divinely balanced mind, you won’t be able to run your life from your heart.
Until you bring yourself back into perceptual balance, you fragment yourself into self-righteous and “self-wrongeous” personas, which psychologists often call your owned and disowned parts.
[“get our act together” means “know your psyche”-BS]
If you have 1,000 lies about divine order and balance, you have 2,000 personas, and all those aspects of yourself compete for your consciousness, lower your potential, and keep you from remembering who you really are.
…compound association…
…your personas cause you to over- and underreact to associated events in your life.

Who Do You Think You Are?:

“…whatever I say to you is what I’m working on in myself. I’m honored to have someone like you here so I can learn and grow.”
…by becoming integrated, I became present and had a real effect on the people. True and balanced love cannot be rejected…False expectations are designed to be rejected, because the universe wants us to love.
When you stop taking credit and blame, you have the potential to become present, and in that state of presence, you’re capable of what most people call miracles.

The Healing Power of Presence:

When you’re centered, you do not see yourself as separate from divinity or humanity, and you see human will and divine will as one. That’s when you have an inspired revelation that tells you what to do, and you act on it without reacting.
…love and appreciation can affect matter from a distance, bringing order to our physiology and power to our intents.

Bi-aural Fusion:

…our physical senses are bipolar and dualistic, they need some sort of imbalance to function.
…there must be some sort of differentiation.
When we focus and bring out minds to perfect symmetry, the inner world is birthed—an inner attention, and inner presence.
Our objective is to discover the underlying perfect symmetry, balanced proportion, and harmonious order, and allow the inner voice to become greater than the outer voices. That happens every time we merge our two sides into one, our emotional particles into light, and our personas into our true being—the soul.

The World is a Mirror:

To have people just attack the hell out of you, know that it’s all true, in one form or another, and find out that you can still love yourself for it? Yes, that’s the gift of The Quantum Collapse Process.
Everybody has two sides. If you’re honest, you’ll see that you are both saint and sinner, virtuous and vicious. So when someone accuses you of something, don’t waste time defending yourself. Instead, admit that you are in fact possessor of whatever it is they’re attacking you for. Not only are you possessor, but they are, too, and they’re judging themselves; that’s why they’re accusing you. If it hurts to hear it, that means you haven’t seen how that quality serves you or others and you’re judging yourself. Their gift to you is to wake you up to another part of yourself that you haven’t yet loved.

The Big Prison

“…there is a divine justice going on, and no mortal can interfere with immortal justice…We’re not here to judge another person; we’re here to love.”
“Whatever you do, you do to yourself. To judge others only compounds your own faults.”—The Buddha
If you teach them how to love, they can transform their lives and make a difference.
Everybody deserves to be liberated, but we cannot have free will and freedom until we get beyond our illusions of infatuation and resentment.

Are You Absolutely Positive?

Society, religion, and some philosophies share a huge collective myth that one day we’ll reach a point where our negative or dark side will disappear and we’ll all be perfect, peaceful, and happy. This is not going to happen.
There is elated positive thinking and depressed negative thinking, and right between the two is present and loving thinking.
Nature knows this; the divine order uses both humiliating and pride-building circumstances to make sure you don’t stray too far from your heart. You’re not the victim, you’re the creator of your own healing process, and you determine how long it takes by how quickly you get the lesson.
You’re given all your balanced qualities for a reason—to help you manifest your destiny
…false expectations on a reality that demands two sides.
You’re not here to be a one-sided being; you’re here to embrace both sides of yourself.
We’re here to be whole beings, and positive and negative are the two sides to teach us that.

Never Say Never

…until it happened to her. Now she understood.
We draw in those things to teach us to love ourselves and the world. We’re not here to judge, or be positive or negative thinkers; we’re here to be love that embraces both sides.
…the more we reveal our whole true self, the more we are loved.
Wisdom is the instantaneous recognition that crisis is blessing, and love is the automatic, instantaneous expression of the two sides of life.
You can’t blow it. There are no mistakes.
Mastery is the ability to take your privates public…
When you give yourself permission to be fully human, you approach the divine.

Exercise 1:

…you have a psychological boundary that thinks anything outside you is not as good as anything inside you. Your illusion that you are separate from the world is the basis of the myth of separateness: self versus other, good versus evil.

Exercise 2:

We normally look for differences between ourselves and others.
As you improve, you’ll be able to find yourself in anyone and anything.
Eventually, your perceptions of good and bad or right and wrong will begin to fade, and you’ll see just living beings. The longer you practice, the more the invisible walls come down, and you won’t see the distance but the oneness between yourself and the world.

Words of Wisdom and Power:

· I am a human being. I have every trait in perfect balance, and they all serve

· Whatever I see is me.

· Whatever appears, I look for the other side and am free.

· I take no credit and take no blame.

· This, too, is a lesson in love.

· Thank you for my skills and opportunities to participate in this world.

Chapter 5: Who’s minding the Store?

Our myths of one-sided triumphs and disasters keep us from recognizing divine order, and one of the biggest myths of humankind is the subject of death.
Nature has never extinguished a species, or a group of species, without birthing a new species that was fewer in number but greater in organization and/or consciousness. Without death of the old, the new cannot appear.
That’s divine order again. Technology and ecology are just the two equilibrated sides of consciousness, and they regulate the speed at which we evolve. They’re both right, and they’re both necessary.

Natural Order:

In our ignorance, we think that the world is out of balance, and we try to fix anything we’re ignorant about, including ourselves.
If we start to destroy things, we’ll automatically reduce ourselves in the process and restore the equilibrium. We simply can’t screw it up.

Nothing but Light:

…everything is ordered by an Intelligence wiser and greater than we can imagine.
“…there is actually no creation or destruction, just change in form.”—Buckminster Fuller
You aren’t born, you don’t die—you are.
Nothing is gained or lost.

There is no Loss:

Bereavement, grief, and remorse are simply forms of uncommunicated love and gratitude.
The Quantum Collapse Process to dissolve their grief. Not only have we consistently found what they thought they had lost, but they realized that they preferred the new form to the old one and wouldn’t want to go back.
It’s possible to completely dissolve grief in two to five hours…through the power of love.
Life is too precious to spend on illusions of loss and death. Do not fall into the illusion of what some people call compassion by supporting the myth of loss. Care enough about them to find the equilibrium, and help them have the communion of spirit with their loved one; in so doing, you will illuminate them.

You Want It? You’ve Got It!

…as long as you’re ungrateful for the form it’s in, you’ll block it from manifesting into the form you think you want. Love it the way it is, and it will transform into the way you love. This is very powerful to understand. Nothing is missing.
The instant people realize that they already have what they thought was missing, they’re free, and they understand that they have the power to get it in whatever form they want.
One of the greatest discoveries I’ve made is that nothing is missing; it’s always equilibrated, and we’re always surrounded by whatever we love. Just as in a relationship, where the more you try to change your partner the more they resist you, the more you try to change the world into your fantasy of how it should be, the more it bites you. Love it for what it is, and you have the power to transform it—not because you need to change it any longer, but because love gives you the power to do so. Love is magic.

Four Great Questions:

Where have we come from?
Where are we going?
Why are we here?
Who are we?
We are astronomical, stellar people.
The breadth of your vision determines the quality of your life, and the effect you have on the world.
…a sage, a wise being with a universal perspective, and what does he talk about? Eternity. He doesn’t think in terms of mortal time and space; he thinks about forever.
You can’t get beyond yourself without a cause greater than you.
As you expand yourself and your vision grows, your resources increase, and broader domains of space and time are yours to play in.
Re-source means to get back to the source. Stay with the inner heartfelt source and the resource is yours. Love and appreciation connect you to this true source of wealth.
But the greater your vision and patience, the greater your power and scale of creation.
…your immortal soul is vast; it doesn’t have a limited consciousness.
…if you are more patient and your vision approaches the infinite, you see things nonlocally.
The sage sees the whole earth simultaneously and says, “thank you.”
…the awareness that in all events of life, there is this nonlocal, equilibrating anti-event. That’s where the mystery is; that’s where the magic is; and that’s where your mission, love, and heart are.
You evolve by finding the balance in all things and acknowledge the Intelligence greater than yourself that governs it.

It’s All about Perspective:

Maybe it’s just a perspective game. There is balance, and sometimes we stress because we deny the other side. Everything that happens is just an event that, if taken out of context, could be seen as terrible or terrific.
We’re going to get both no matter what we do, so it might as well be in the pursuit of our dreams.

The Aging Process:

…every time we fail to see the divine order, we age…every time we see the divine order, we become present, and space and time dissolve.
We’re finely attuned; and we inwardly see, hear, and feel holistically.
We grow through ever-greater spheres of influence and outreach, and we cannot rule or govern that which we haven’t transcended. To transcend is to master, and mastery is based upon loving and understanding the duality within any concentric sphere. I believe that if we want to make a difference in ourselves, we must have a vision at least as big as our family. To make a difference in our family, we must have a vision as big as our city. We must have a vision as big as the state to make a difference in our city, and a vision as big as the nation to make a difference in our state. We must have a vision as big as the globe to make a difference in our nation, and it takes an astronomical vision to make a global difference.
…see ourselves outside the terrestrial sphere, to realize that we’re celestial beings having temporarily Earthly experiences…
To have a global impact, we must look out at the world and see the whole picture in terms of astronomy, geology, and evolution, not stand here looking at ourselves and feeling small.
We’re here to learn, teach, and become our true nature, love and light, and those closest to us are our greatest teachers and students in this school of life.

Exercise:

The qualities you miss in someone may appear in other people, yourself, a beloved animal, or new relationships and opportunities.
It’s not a matter of if the new forms exist; it’s simply a matter of where they exist, so don’t stop looking until you find them. You’ll know you’re done when you realize that you wouldn’t exchange the new form for what seemed lost. When you see the blessings, you’ll experience a moment of silence and stillness, a tear of inspiration.

Words of Wisdom and Power:

· I look at great spans of time, and see great order.

· In love, there is no loss.

· There is a vast intelligence running the world, and it is in order.

· Death is an illusion; life just changes form.

· I have a great vision, and money flows in to help me fulfill it.

· There is nothing to fix but much to love.

Chapter 6: Relationship

The center point is what every human being already is, yet elusively still seeks. True love is our ultimate objective, whether we’re aware of it or not.
The purpose of all relationships is to dissolve the barriers that keep us apart from recognizing the love that already is, and expressing the love we ultimately have.
The purpose of relationship isn’t happiness; it’s a combination of happiness and sadness, which makes up fulfillment.
The sadness just means your buttons are being pushed and you’re seeking the parts of yourself that you haven’t loved yet.
Buttons are nothing but lopsided perceptions, and people come into your life as teachers to point them out to you. The ones who push your buttons the most are your greatest teachers.
Wisdom means thanking others for bringing to your awareness those areas where you’ve lied and not loved, and for being grateful that they’ve given you this opportunity to love.

700 Hearts:

“When you can’t wait to share a message from your heart, your students can’t wait to hear it.”
Inside every single person is an overwhelming desire to fully express their divinity, the absolute spirit of love that they have and are.
The only thing that truly satisfies the soul is love and appreciation, and when we feel and express these feelings, we feel fulfilled.

The Purpose of Marriage:

Marriage is not about happiness, unless you redefine the term happiness as fulfillment, which is the synthesis of both positive and negative emotions. Marriage was never intended to be one-sided.
Understanding the purpose of marriage can free you from an extremely pervasive myth that is the source of many marriage breakups. The purpose of marriage is to teach people how to fully love themselves, their owned and disowned parts.
In any relationship, except during moments of presence and unconditional love, you’ll oscillate between liking and disliking a person as you fluctuate around the center point of love. Love is not a static state that we reach and then stop; it is a constantly growing and expanding force.
If all they did was support, support, support you, you’d do whatever you could to confront and challenge them.
“…I need somebody who can stand up to me. I want some challenge.”
There are times when it’s important to be soft, and times when it’s vital to be tough.
That’s the game. Master it.

The 12-Year Itch

He couldn’t appreciate what he presently had as long as he compared it to the fantasy. He wasn’t present; he was living in the past, and that so-called past pleasure and his present pain were a team.
…balance it all out and dissolve his illusion.
He then saw that the negatives and positives were equal, and at that moment, he started appreciating his wife.
…he got present with her, freeing himself from a fantasy that had controlled his life and kept him from seeing the wonderful woman who loved him.
…if you’re not satisfied with your partner, it may be because you’re comparing them to some fantasy. You’ve created a myth that they’re supposed to live up to, a hidden agenda that you haven’t even communicated, and when they fail to live up to it, you punish them. Your fantasy is all positives and no negatives, which doesn’t exist, and you beat them up for their negative side, which is exactly what you need to grow. Your mate is magnificent, but as long as you have the myth, you won’t have a present relationship. You must destroy the myth of relationships to experience the truth of love.

Ah, Passion!

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”—Lao Tzu
…the true marriage vows: for better and for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health. The vows tell you in advance that love is not all pleasure, but most people don’t understand until they’ve lived it. When you embrace both sides, you can truly embrace the whole person.

Your Value Systems:

…you’re run by your value systems. We all have a hierarchy of values, from the things we think are extremely important, and all the way down to the things we think don’t matter. Your values dictate your destiny.
Your values are based on the perception that something is missing, that a void exists. But the Law of Conservation says that nothing is missing, its just in a form you haven’t recognized.
One scenario met her values; the other completely challenged them. If I don’t honor my wife by knowing her values, and if I don’t know my values and learn how to communicate them in terms of hers, then I don’t know how to care about her.
…an uncaring relationship: trying to push your values onto someone else, trying to get them to do what you do and live your values.
There are three ways to conduct a relationship: a careless relationship, a careful relationship, and a caring relationship.
The definition of caring is knowing someone well enough to know their values, and caring enough to express your values in terms of theirs.
I’m going to betray and challenge her at times; she’s not going to like or trust me at times, and she’ll even resent me, and that’s normal.
…if I can find a balance between support and challenge where she grows maximally, and she can find a balance of support and challenge where I grow maximally, we have a more fulfilling relationship…That’s a well balanced relationship.

Home Rules:

You set up rules when your values feel threatened.
Often when we’re in a relationship, we unwisely think the other person is supposed to be like us, and we project our hierarchy of values onto them.
The purpose of marriage is to teach us to love the parts we’ve disowned, so 50 percent like them and 50 percent unlike them is the ideal reality.
There’s no such thing as a trusting relationship 100 percent of the time.
Each person has their own set of values, and no two people have the same set. They can live up to their values, but not to yours.
People show their love through their own value system and nobody else’s—unless they’re humble, wise, honorable, and caring enough to communicate in your values.
Each person expresses love through their own values. When we honor their value systems, we realize that we’re surrounded by love in forms we don’t even recognize

The Argument Field:

Are arguments bad? No, they’re telling you that somebody loves you and wants to regulate space, time, energy, and matter with you.
…everyone has a running checklist on their relationship with you.
…perceptions of imbalance have the power to close the heart.
A moment of presence is more powerful than hours of impatient half attention. Love is a chargeless field, unlimited or infinite. Give space and you get love; give love and you get space. Try it and see.
When you love someone, you’re the nicest and the meanest to them. You support and challenge, you’re pleasant and unpleasant, you lift them up and put them down, you do things for them and ignore them. Those are the two sides of love.
Along with love, war is also an essential part of wholeness and well-being. Half the time you need a good war in your relationship. Conflict and competition are necessary for growth. We’re not here to have only peace; we’re here to have both sides of life’s coin. So if you have a conflict in your relationship, don’t think, Uh-oh, my relationship is failing. No, it’s growing! It’s challenging you, making you look at yourself. When you self-inspect, change your beliefs and the way you handle things, and learn how to master communicating in terms of the other person’s values, you grow.
They’d come to the center as well; if you’re truly in you heart, they can’t resist.
Love cannot be rejected, but expectation will certainly be. Most people confuse love with expectation. You can’t avoid having expectations and opinions, but to get stuck in them is to stop your growth. The Breakthrough Experience was created to help you transcend your rigid opinions and birth love, and then dissolve your next opinions and birth love, and keep expanding as a human being.
Whatever you love turns into what you would most love it to be. If you try to fix or change somebody, they’ll resist; but if you honor and thank them for who they are, as they are, and love them for who they are, they’ll assist. When you love people for who they are, they turn into whom you love.

Crisis is a Blessing:

…blame doesn’t empower you. It can, in fact, be disempowering, and it won’t get you what you would truly love in life.
“…whatever you repress in the equation of you relationship dynamic, somebody else comes to express.”
“If you want to keep your wife, listen to her. Find out what her values are, and learn how to effectively communicate in terms of them. Identify and own where you’re repressing, disassociating, and blaming…”
By telling him she was ready to move on, he woke up. It was one of the best things that ever happened to their relationship…when he woke up, he suddenly wanted to learn about life and how to keep his marriage growing.
…he began to empower himself. He was no longer in a state of needing her, but moved toward loving her.
When he became more empowered like her and she became more humbled, they embraced more of their sides and met in the middle.
As he awakened to the truth of his relationship dynamic, he had nothing to forgive her for…
It was the divine order working to create love.
…get to their heart and find the truth of their inner love.

Soulmates:

…rule out the possibility that they may be living with a fantasy about a mate with only positives and no negatives. Since that one-sided mate doesn’t exist, of course they won’t be able to find them.
Only when they realize that it’s already in their lives are they prepared to meet their soulmate. Life is funny. The moment you realize you already have everything you’re looking for, the universe gives it to you.
The greatest discovery in life is that no matter what you do, you’re being supported and challenged simultaneously. The second greatest discovery is that nothing is missing; it’s just in a form you haven’t recognized. Widen your experience, and see that it’s all there just in a new form, and then watch yourself become a master of transformation.
The clearer, more balanced, more real, and whole that image is—and the more you love yourself (because it’s really a reflection of your true self)—the more power you have in creating or attracting your special mate…Your soulmate will bring you the greatest experiences of pleasure and pain, the biggest supports and challenges of your life. That is true love.
Two people start out in a relationship with masks on, afraid they won’t be loved for being themselves. But if you know that no mater what you’ve done or not done you’re worthy of love, and if you see that everything you’ve done has served, then you’re not afraid to take off the mask. You may not even wear one in the first place.
Everyone outside of you is a reflection and a part of you. Love yourself enough to love them.
There is nothing but love, and all else is illusion. The power to transform your life is in you heart. You only need the courage to open it.

Exercise:

There are no victims in this world. We are all the cause and creators of our own perceptual experience. Until we acknowledge this fundamental truth, no true healing transformation or awakening can take place.
The more you become accustomed to thinking in this way, the more you’ll be able to do it in the moment. You’ll be amazed at the effects on others—and on you—when you transcend a moment of judgment and blame.

Words of Wisdom and Power:

· Happiness and sadness are the two sides of fulfillment.

· I speak from my heart, and people listen.

· If two people are exactly the same, one of them isn’t necessary.

· Put them on a pedestal, put them in the pit.

· Love them for who they are, and they become who you love.

· There is nothing but love, and all else is illusion.

Chapter 7: Divinity

“God is a metaphor for a mystery that absolutely transcends all human categories of thought, including being and nonbeing.”—Joseph Campbell
The true students of spirit and seekers of wisdom walk toward their own center of centers.

Guru Nanak:

We’re all hypocrites when we say we’re spiritual but don’t sit in a state of gratitude and grace for the magnificence of everything, just as it is…acknowledge the times when we’re not grateful, know that that’s the journey, and humble ourselves to our sacred path of love.
The root of the word divine means “to shine”… “God” stands for Grand Organized Design in the universe…the truth is an underlying order, and it’s our job to discover it.
Divinity is virtually smacking us in the face, but we don’t want to recognize it. We feel in dis-grace because we don’t acknowledge it in ourselves and in every part of our lives.

Going to Heaven:

Presence is the closest experience we have to divinity.

The Great Artist:

Because we’re surrounded by life and divinity, we take it all for granted, like a fish unaware of the water it lives in. Life truly is a miracle, and miracles don’t happen by chance alone but by laws and intelligence.

There are No Victims:

There’s a dynamic going on; it’s not a violent villain and an innocent victim—it’s a team playing out a balancing duality. When you understand what’s actually happening, you see that it’s perfectly ordered, with two people teaching each other how to grow in self-worth and love.
No liberation is complete until you realize that your perceptions are your own cause, and it’s up to you to empower yourself.
You are the author of your own life.

I am Worthy of Love:

Most diseases have an underlying emotional basis…
Disease and illness are the signs and symptoms that the body uses to reveal to us where we’re not loving. This divinely created system makes sure we get the message, and wakes us up to the truth that nothing in ourselves or the world is unworthy of love.
We get ill to teach us to love. It’s not a punishment or a mistake. It’s a gift.
No matter what I’ve done or not done, I am worthy of love. When every single cell of your body vibrates with these words, so will you, and so will your world.

Thank you for My Life:

…equilibrating your perceptions sets you free.
If we label the rapist “evil” and call the woman “a victim,” we help them both become stuck.
You can live in the past and never get on with the future, and I assure you that anything you don’t love about your past will affect your future.
Love yourself enough to love them, and set both of you free.

Everything Serves:

Everything has two sides, and you can never have one without the other…Don’t wait to get old to finally understand this. Awaken to the wisdom of the ages without the aging process. Honor the truth of equilibration.
Anything you perceive as life-threatening or destroying is also life-giving and creating, if you only have the wisdom to look for it. Find the balance in your world, and enter into a freedom that few people ever experience, the liberty of an inspiring and trusting life.

Big Gratitude:

If you can see that everything in your life serves you, that no matter what you’ve done or not done it’s moving you forward, you suddenly see your own perfection and your heart opens—to yourself.
…kept their metabolic rate low to avoid having energy, and the responsibility that came with it.
It’s our job to look beyond our illusions or myths and find the underlying truth. When we become humbled to the Intelligence greater than ourselves, we get beyond ourselves and open the doorway to expansion.
…the true living spiritual experience occurs when we acknowledge God’s magnificence and grace in presence, love, and gratitude.
The vitality and power that surge from recognizing it won’t allow us to remain unchanged. We’ll be transformed into a new person in life…realize that there is a magnificent and hidden order.

The Myth of Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is a self-righteous illusion that makes someone bad or wrong and then presumes to judge and pardon. Apology is judging yourself, and both are guaranteed to perpetuate whatever you judge. The only thing that transcends this dynamic is love.
Instead of thinking that it was a mistake, feeling guilty, apologizing, and running that whole illusion, why not see it as some kind of synchronicity? There are no mistakes in a divinely ordered universe… Go beyond forgiveness, find the order, and be present with whatever happens.
The truth requires no forgiveness.
…caring is speaking in terms of other’s values…
…every time we judge anything and don’t see its magnificence, we’re denying God.
“Where is God not?”
“Thank you for giving me this experience.”
…count your blessings is wisdom…give thanks, you become illuminated…humbling yourself until you become receptive to the great permeating Intelligence that governs this living universe.
…every night at bedtime you say “thank you”…that great Intelligence would resonate with you and speak clearly through your heart… every time you listen to it, you awaken your genius.

Infinite Intelligence:

A genius is one who follows the light of their soul and obeys.
The moment we humble ourselves to that infinite Intelligence, we begin to share in it. We acknowledge ourselves as part of it, and we start to receive the guidance and inspiration that will take us where we’re destined to go, and where we would most love to be.

Exercise:

Exercise your wisdom. Train yourself to instantly equilibrate emotions on a global scale, and the more you do, the more certain you will become about the governing Intelligence that orders life on Earth.

Words of Wisdom and Power:

Where is God not?
Gratitude is heaven, ingratitude is hell.
Everything serves, including me.
Nothing is missing; it just changes form.
There are no victims, just lessons in love.
Forgiveness is a passing milestone on the path of truth and love.

Chapter 8: Genius

His certainty was so great that my questions and doubts were overridden, and for a timeless period, I saw myself as he saw me.
The word genius comes from the Latin root meaning “guardian spirit,” and that’s exactly what great teachers and immortal thinkers are: creative, guardian spirits who shine light on what seems dark to others. Our own soul is the ultimate guardian spirit, and a genius is one who listens to their soul and obeys.

Seven Levels of Consciousness:

Genius is not a matter of intellect; it is a result of listening to and acting upon the messages of your soul.

Verbal expression	Level of consciousness	Perception ratio	Brain evolution	Stage of evolvement	Life results
Love to	Self-actualization	(1-1)	Corpus Callosum	Spiritual Human	Break Through Inspiration
Choose to	Self-fulfillment	(2-1)	Cerebral Cortex	Human Mammal
Desire to	Self-esteem	(3-1)	Limbic Brain	Mammalian
Want to	Social	(4-1)	Basal Ganglia	Reptilian-Apes	Break even
Need to	Security	(5-1)	Brain Stem	Amphibian
Ought to	Survival	(6-1)	Spinal Cord	Pre-amphibian
Have to	Suicide	(7-1)	Neuron	Unicellular	Break Down Desperation

At the top of the scale, you acknowledge that you’re more than just an individual; you’re connected to and perfectly reflect the universal whole.
Mastery in any area of life simply means finding the balance and not being ruled by emotions. All things are balanced, so why not know this and begin to look for the equilibrium?
Most people live between the need and want levels.
More than 90 percent of Americans depend on Social Security when they retire…Most live for immediate gratification without long-term vision, listening to their senses and not their soul.
At the love-to level, you know it’s your destiny and nothing will stop you. Here, you break through to a new and more inspired level of being.
Great geniuses are willing to pay the price. They’re willing to make sacrifices for their dreams…They do whatever it takes. There’s nothing wrong with that, because pain and pleasure always come together in a pair.
It’s all about framing…suddenly its all fuel instead of baggage.
The story you tell yourself about your life is what your life becomes.

Fair Exchange:

They have the capacity to change their attitudes and transform their lives...
“…dignity, accountability, productivity, and responsibility…”
…stopped asking who could help her and started asking how she could help herself.
Ask yourself, What would I love to do today? What would I love to do with my life? Ask a different question and get a different life, because the way you talk to yourself creates your reality.

Seven Levels of the Brain:

…how fundamentalists function in their respective areas of life. Their minds can’t comprehend gray; they can only perceive white or black.
The seven levels of the brain retrace the seven levels of evolutionary consciousness. The more balanced your perceptions, the higher you go in brain evolution and the more powerful and insightful your mind becomes.
You grow from impulse, where you simply react unconsciously to the world, to instinct, where you’re ruled by your emotions; to intellect, where the mind starts to have some awareness of and influence on your destiny. In all of those states, the heart is relatively closed and cannot direct your life. When the heart opens a little, you start to have intuition; and when it opens even further, you get inspiration. Inspiration involves messages, visions, and feelings that show you why you’re here. When the heart is completely open, it can receive divine revelation; and when you receive that, you cannot help but have a profound effect on the world. You will make a difference…
We were designed to have clairvoyance, clairaudience, and clairsentience—to have photographic and audiographic minds that are present.
Realize that crisis is blessing, that terrible is terrific; and reach a point where positive and negative are synthesized into a present, centered wholeness.

Living Genius:

…an extraordinary teacher…Her certainty exceeded all doubts about their extraordinary and ingenious potential because she taught them as if they already were geniuses, and that’s exactly what they became.
…teach them as immortal souls inhabiting the earth.
…you know what you’re truly here for.

Seven Areas of Life:

You are here on this earth to master seven areas of life: spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, familial, social, and physical.
When you supply these areas with love, they become seven sources of power.

The Seven Fears:

Fear is an illusion that can fragment your full potential. There are seven fears, one for each of the seven areas of life.
You must be able to love failure as much as success, since you fail and succeed equally and constantly.
The fifth fear is that of losing your loved ones…we don’t so much need each other as we just love each other.
We both have independent lives, and if either of us were to leave, the other would still function. There’s more a sharing than a “got to have them” form of desperation. Remember, if you probe deeply, nothing can be lost, only transformed.
…the Law of Lesser Pissers…if you’re given the choice between pissing someone else off or pissing yourself off, choose them. People come and go, but you’re with you for the whole trip…Never sacrifice the eternal for the transient.
…fear is a lie, a lopsided perception clouding the hidden order; so I identify it, bring it to balance, then walk through it. It is then that I turn on my light.
“…do what must be done. This may not be happiness, but it is greatness.”—George Bernard Shaw
There are excuses for every area of life. If you equilibrate your perceptions in each of those areas, you gain power…go beyond limiting beliefs and emotions and going on to birth genius.

The Equilibrating Game:

Realize that you’ve grown into the next level of chaos and are being given greater challenges because you have greater capacity. If you’re sitting still in a life of ease, you’re actually dis-easing, decaying, and breaking down. You want to constantly be on the edge of this life.
Make the embracing of new challenges your goal. That’s the secret of evolution—turning chaos and emotion into order and love so that you can take on even more and turn that into love. And there’s no end to the chaos, the love, and the wisdom.
You can have the wisdom of the ages without the aging process by balancing your mind now.
Imagine if you clearly defined exactly how you would express love in your life. What if you made a commitment to keep refining this goal and put it on a computer so it was more effectively and efficiently planned and fulfilled? What if you made visual pictures and audiotapes or CDs of it, put it on paper, and stuck it up all over your house, car, and business so that wherever you went you’d see it, think about it, and read it? What if you filled your day by associating with people who were absolutely inspiring; if you read biographies of the greats in the field you would love to master; watched their videos or listened to their tapes, CDs, or DVDs; and went to their exhibitions or live performances? Can you even imagine how that could rub off? You have divinity inside you, and you want to associate with those who feel divinely called to do what they do.
…teacher of teachers…
Anybody who ridicules you also honors you by acknowledging that you have exceeded their capacity to understand what you’re about. When people support you, they obviously think you can’t do it on your own.
…infatuated with your overexaggerated dream and require humbleness to moderate it and more effectively fulfill it.
Every moment we spend not focused on our dreams becomes a moment we spend focused on our doubts and obstacles.
Obstacles are simply what you see when you take your mind off your focus. With every step you take toward the details of your dream, you become more creative, inspired, and ingenious. Everybody has a dream, but a genius is willing to define and redefine that dream and keep acting on high-priority actions to fulfill it.
Fantasies are lopsided illusions to which we compare our reality; they even depress us. Dreams are realistic objectives that we refine our lives toward and can live.
Your vitality is directly proportionate to the vividness of your vision and the clarity of your calling, which are directly proportionate to how well you see and acknowledge the divine order. When you see perfect balance, the inner voice becomes loud and the inner vision becomes clear, and an incredible amount of energy is available to you.

Exercise

So, too, is it impossible to put your mind into the great works of genius without some of their genius sticking with you.

Words of Wisdom and Power

I talk to myself with the respect due a great genius.
I look for the genius in everyone I meet.
I link everything I do to my mission, and I am inspired by my life.
I walk through the darkened doorway where fear lurks, and I turn on the light.
I listen to my heart, which awakens my genius.
My genius elevates me beyond my daily illusions.

Chapter 9: The Quantum Collapse Process

“When I speak of love, I am not speaking of some sentimental or weak response. I am speaking of that force which all of the great religions have seen as the supreme unifying principle of life. Love is somehow the key that unlocks the door which leads to ultimate reality.”—Martin Luther King Jr.
…there’s an unbound potential energy, unfathomable to the normal mind, but available to those whose spirit is in a state of grace.
The purpose of this exercise is to balance out the lopsided perceptions that have been running your life, health, wealth, relationships, and self-worth, and free up your potential and inspired inner voice.
We’re actually Collapsing your false beliefs and illusions about life. When your false nature Collapses, your true nature is revealed, and it’s magnificent. Is that worth of effort?

Step 1:

Every Collapse is really a self-collapse at heart, because whatever you see out there is you. We don’t love other people for their sake; we love them for our own.

Step 3:

…you have the trait…to the same degree as the person in question…
…owning your positive disowned parts.
…owning your negative disowned parts.
…you’re self-righteous and exaggerating yourself and building yourself up in relation to it and them.
…you have the same quality, to the same degree…it’s not a matter of if, only a matter of where you have every quality.

Step 4:

…dissolve any admiration or infatuation toward this trait…see that the benefits and drawbacks are perfectly balanced and this trait no longer runs you.

Additional Questions:

“what is still in the way of me loving this person?”
…until you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you appreciate and love the person. This sets you and them free.
The more you become present about them, and the more love and gratitude you feel, the more they will tune in to you and think of you, contact you, or transform in some way. And you will definitely be transformed by the experience.
Infatuation=addiction

Signs of Wisdom and Illumination:

The more open the heart, the more profound the experience.

-Tears of inspiration…emotions are polarized; love is synthesized.

-Growth in self-worth

-Unconditional gratitude…just as they are.

-Unconditional love

-Fearlessness and guiltlessness

-Speechlessness and outward silence

-Balance, centeredness, and integration

-Lightness and weightlessness

-Nonlocal, all-sense presence of the loved one

-Experience of light

-Certainty of truth…there is one great truth, that the universe is filled with love, and all else is an illusion.

-Desire to embrace

-Uplifting of the head and eyes…You now sense the underlying intelligent order, and you gratefully humble yourself to this hidden Intelligence that is greater than yourself.

-Domino effect of fuller understanding of past events

This is a science of physiology and spirit…

Chapter 10: Conception: Believing is Seeing

“the Love List”
If you want to achieve self-mastery, you must ask the questions and get the details to master your life or you won’t build it. The question is, are you important enough to yourself to take the time to plan?

Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail:

In this creation process, you have a balance between making things happen and letting things happen.
If you set a goal with your self-righteous persona, you’re going to get burned out attempting to accomplish it.

Flexibility:

My intuition lets me know…and I train myself to listen to it.
Your list of visions and loves isn’t set in stone.
Whatever the vision, it’s wise to say, “either this or something even more efficient,” to allow the universe to bring input to your dreams.

Vision is Life:

The theoretical and abstract are just as essential for a fulfilling life as the practical and concrete.
When you write your Love List, I recommend that you include short-term goals that are specific, detailed, and that can be easily accomplished; long-term goals that are possibly a little less clear but will be revealed as you go along; and visions for your entire life.
“Where there is no vision, the people perish.”
“I plan to live my life fully until the moment I stop breathing, being productive and doing something that fulfills me and serves others.”
Whether you realize it or not, you have a yearning for immortality in every area of you life. You want offspring, subordinates, or students who live on beyond you; and somebody to carry on your name, energy, or experiences. You want to leave some effect on society so that they remember you, and wouldn’t you like to end up with more money at the end of your life than life at the end of your money? Your spirit knows this and is doing whatever it can take to wake you up to your dreams and your true worth, but you must listen to it.

The Slinky Principle:

Details keep you centered, balanced, and moving forward. You reach divinity through infinite detail, because as you focus on the details, you become more present with your creations and steadier with your actions. You are co-creator in a universal system. If your plan is detailed enough, you’ll draw in the people who will help make it happen. The more vague and hesitant the plan, the more chaos and frustration you experience just trying to get to it. So, go for the details!

Soul Seeds:

…stand on my shoulders…
“I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore I can do, or kindness that I can show to my fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”—Stephen Grellet
The most magnificent thing in life is to be able to get up every morning and do what you love and love what you do, to be well paid and inspired to do it, to make your vacation your vocation.
…write down your dreams every single day, to read and visualize and affirm them, to focus on and feel called to them…
Fill your mind and days with those dreams, and they’ll become your life.

Setting your Own Course:

A genius is one who is willing to define and refine their dream, and keep acting on high priority actions to fulfill it. Someone with a mission that extends far greater than any concern of success or failure is unstoppable.

Your Love List:

…if you don’t act, you’re just writing empty words.

Words of Wisdom and Power

I am a star; my destiny is to shine.
I am a master of details, and I see my path clearly.
I am the author of my life.
Whoever has the most certainty, rules.
The truth of me is light.
God is the power, I’m the vision; we’re the team.

Chapter 11: Materialization: the Blueprint of Creation

Your purpose is the “why” that draws to you the “hows” in order for your “whats” to come true.
…without a meaningful why, little will happen.
There are many levels of excuse in answer to the question, “Why aren’t you self-actualizing your life and living exactly the way you would love it to be?” and they’re all based on fears and forms of guilt.
1. Define your dreams …2. Ask yourself what’s in the way of those dreams.
What lessens the power of your inner world are your exaggerated and minimized perceptions in the seven areas of your life. Those are the fears and forms of guilt behind your self-limitation. The Breakthrough Experience is about dissolving the lopsided perceptions in the seven areas of life and freeing up your spirit to soar and fulfill.
“If they can do it, I can do it!”
…if you studied 180-plus minutes a day on the topic you have chosen to master, you could be at the cutting edge of your field at the end of two years.
Once you understand the truth of reflective consciousness and you follow a simple strategy, the sky becomes your limit.

Being, Doing and Having:

It’s our nature to grow and expand our consciousness and outstretch every quality of our lives. Anyone who doesn’t self-destructs because they’re not fulfilling their divine purpose of continued evolvement, expansion, and awakening.
…unfair exchange… “Giving” is something of a myth, for it can’t be done without receiving… The master recognizes and transcends the myth of giving by knowing it’s simply a form of exchange and transformation…receiving in exact equilibrium.
Become awakened to others and your own hidden agendas.
A way to maintain presence is simultaneous fair exchange.
“Payment is due when services are rendered.”

What is your True Value?

Until you value yourself, don’t expect others to.
“I ask for what I want; they pay it. It’s that simple.”—Harrison Ford
The universe is asking you, “what is your value?” and waiting patiently until you finally wake up to it.

Your Mission Statement:

Your mission statement will reflect the purpose you’re willing to live, regardless of pleasure and pain, or whether people like or dislike you, own or disown you. It transcends concern of success or failure. This is your moment to decide what you would love to dedicate your life to, so let’s begin.

The Manifestation Formula:

Clarify your purpose
Link all seven areas of life to your purpose
Think about what you would love
Visualize what you would love
Affirm what you would love
Feel what you would love…The four most powerful creative feelings are gratitude, love, inspiration, and enthusiasm.
Write what you would love
Act on what you would love…Seven Quality Questions of Self-Actualization…Your objective is to make your avocation your vocation.
a) What would I absolutely love to do in this life?
b) How do I become handsomely or beautifully paid for it?
c) What are the seven highest-priority action steps I could complete today that would enable me to begin doing what I love?
d) What obstacles might I run into and how do I solve them in advance?
e) What worked and didn’t work today?
f) How do I do what I would love more effectively and efficiently?
g) How did whatever I experienced today, whether positive or negative, serve me and my purpose?
Materialize what you would love
Be thankful for what you would love

The Materialization formula is your blueprint for creating what you love. Purpose plus thought plus vision plus affirmation plus feeling plus writing things down in space and time plus taking action with energy on matter plus being thankful, manifests things. Dreams are just a matter of discipline; this formula makes dreams possible.

Lake Success :

“…I didn’t pick my profession, God picked me, and I mustn’t ever forget the moment I was called…”
“…not let anything enter my mind except my dreams…”
“…if I couldn’t wait to see my patients, they couldn’t wait to see me; if I became inspired about what I was doing, people would get inspired about it, too…people are drawn to order, organization, and clarity…”
“…meditating, organizing, thinking, and dreaming…until I felt I was going to be a success…if I humbled myself to an Intelligence greater than myself, that miracles would happen…
Every single person has a vision, an inspiration, and a gift inside. Everyone has a calling and a commitment and has the power of genius. But you must be willing to organize your life and let nothing stop you. If you have a dream, then carry it through the days of your life and don’t let anything keep you from it—and you’ll awaken your genius…you have a vast destiny that neither you nor I can fully comprehend as yet.
“…work diligently for your own liberation.”—The Buddha
…treat people as if they were geniuses, and that’s what they become. I attempt to speak to the part of you that already knows all this and more, to wake it up and help it come forward to direct your life.

Exercise 1:

Create your own affirmations, and don’t stop saying them for two years before deciding whether they worked or not.

Exercise 3:

What are the seven highest-priority action steps I can do today that will help me live my mission or fulfill my purpose in life?
…logging of all of my most significant achievements, and blessings.

Words of Wisdom and Power:

· What would I love to do?

· If they can do it, I can do it.

· I maintain fair exchange in everything I do.

· I set a value on my time and life, and I receive what I set.

· I fill my life with high-priority actions because time is precious.

· Did I do everything I could, with everything I was given?

Chapter 12: Completion: Full Circle

“Your mind dictates your destiny, and your dominant thought determines your world. Don’t just repeat the words I’ve given you; become them. Say them as if your life depended on them!”
That’s why it’s so important to awaken to your purpose and to Collapse any illusions distracting you from being grateful for your life.

Passing the Torch:

It’s called “passing the torch.” If you have only one of those moments in life, your life is worthwhile.
The quality of your life is directly proportionate to your feeling of productivity and to the service you bring to this world.
If you would love to be a writer, sit down and begin writing and help others do the same.
Another part of self-mastery is knowing when to speak and when to remain silent. To those who believe, no proof is necessary. To those who don’t, no proof is possible. Waste no words on those who seek not. Sometimes silence is more powerful than speech. Be wise in your selection of torch carriers.
…your message rolls downhill…The quicker you gather information and the faster you give to others what you’ve learned, the more you remember.

Illusions Also Serve:

Every once-believed truth eventually becomes another illusion on the next level of understanding.
Everything is relative.
We don’t experience challenges that are beyond us.
We’re not here to be one-sided, we’re not even here to be happy—we’re here to love.
The truth has never been in the hands of the masses; it has always been in the hands of the masters in every field.
…the truth requires perfect accountability for one’s own perceptions and lies…
Life involves an infinite progression, and you’re never done.
I prefer that when I’m 100 years old, I’m taking on even more accountability than I do today. If I am, I’m still alive. If I’m not, I died long before my bodily death.

The Truth about Therapists:

Both love and emotions are feelings, but love is a truth, and emotions are lies.
…supporting their victimhood and helping them weaken themselves…detouring them from the accountability for their own cause and effect…
…true love…challenges them and equilibrates these lopsided illusions for the sake of truth.
I find out how it served them and they’re liberated.
…their helper and teacher, and there was nobody victimized in the first place.
There are definitely therapists who are awakened, self-actualized beings…
The truth really does set you free, and the power of your open heart will affect the people around you.

Identity Crisis:

…you undergo a temporary identity crisis. This phenomenon is absolutely essential to growth, and the bigger the leap, the bigger the crisis.
As humans, our charges are called “emotions,” “belief systems,” and “values.”… We react differently to the world according to our old and new charges.
…creates a different person, and that is both painful and pleasurable.
Growth demands this. You must go through some degree of an identity crisis to grow.
…you’re constantly shedding and renewing. Having identity crises is exactly where you want to live, though, because maximum growth occurs at the border of chaos and order.
Nobody comes to a seminar thinking, I want to be exactly the same when I walk out as when I came in, because that’s not the wisest use of time, energy, and money.

Divine Perfection:

Your heart is wiser than your intellect regarding human duality. It knows and feels the divine order, and it’s humble enough to ask your soul for guidance.
…we already are perfection.
That’s what evolution demands, consuming ever-greater illusions to birth increasing wisdom.
The people who became immortal were the ones who were willing to do things that most people wouldn’t dare to try. They didn’t listen to what people said; they listened to their hearts.

Napoleon Hill:

They won’t, because they don’t allow themselves the true power to imagine it. They won’t understand the drive and the depth of the motivation because they’re living from the suicide-survival-security-social level, instead of from the spiritual self-actualization perspective.
Everyone we’ve ever met, no matter what they’ve done or not done, is a genius deep inside. It’s our responsibility to identify and reflect that in them and ourselves.
Think about this: If there is a Creator, what did that Being create the universe from? There wasn’t anything here before, so it must all have been created from the substance of the Creator Itself. So what are you? You are a tiny piece of the body of God. May you forever love so you may live up to it.

Exercise 1:

Expressing love and gratitude appears to be every human being’s highest priority.
Your obituary will reflect the way you feel about yourself and your life: positive, negative, or loving.
Life is precious, and we sometimes forget that.
Know this to be true: when you have love, you see love; when you live greatness, you’re surrounded by nothing but greatness; and every single human being has love and greatness inside them just waiting for the day it can come out and shine.

The Ten Daily Pillars of Wisdom:

Inspired Action
Loving Service
Grateful Prayer
Divine Guidance
Sharing Wisdom
Caring Sincerely
Silent Presence
Studying Truths
Temperate Rhythm
Fair Exchange